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So my second child is due in about 3 weeks, and i dont know how my 4 year old is gonna take it. We have been really trying to keep him involved, we have a pregnancy book for him that shows him what size the baby is and what the baby can do each month, and a special big brother book that explains how tough babies are in the beginning but that we love him just the same etc.
We have asked his opinion on names and loads of other things, but i just cant shake the feeling that he is gonna take it hard. He has been the light of our lives for over 4 years!
I was almost 5 when my brother was born, and i remember taking it very hard. I just dont want jake to feel the way i did about my brother!
Any tips at all would be greatly appreciated. Or stories on how your older kids took to the new baby would be so wonderful. I just have no idea what to expect!
Gaby was 3y7mo when Emersyn was born, and it was actually a lot better than I thought it would be.
I made sure I had time each day to do something alone with Gaby - whether it was reading her a book, or going out.. Once a week I organised to take Gaby out to do something special - go for lunch, play at the park etc etc..
And I also got her to help out with the baby - get me the wipes or the diaper, pass me the flannel, help wash her tummy in the bath etc etc..
I think the most important things are INVOLVING them with baby, and having ALONE time with the bigger kiddo
When I had Aleyah my boys were 11, 9 and 8 so they were a little older, the transition was not as hard as I thought it would be my boys were a HUGE help. My youngest did show signs of jealousy a few months after she was born because he was the "baby" for so long but we just showed him a little extra love like if DH was going to the store he would invite him, or while the baby napped I him and I would cuddles and talk about his day or watch his favorite show I made a point to ask him about his day at school or ask what he would like for dinner and he was quick to be over it.
Please let us know how its going and don't be afraid to ask questions!
__________________ Crystal, mom to 3 handsome boys: Jesse (04-30-99) Lucas (05-28-01) Emilio (04-20-02) and our sweet princess Aleyah Michelle (10-07-10)