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  #1  
July 25th, 2006, 10:04 AM
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Did you plan to gave your kids far apart?

I was single for 6 years so where I had wanted another baby I was not able to have one. As soon as I got married we started trying for a baby and after 14 months of TTC I finally got pregnant with Paige.

My Sister and I are also 10 years apart and we are very close. I am hoping that my girls with be close also.
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July 25th, 2006, 10:45 AM
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No, we did not plan on it. My 2nd child was born in 1997 & in 1999 I got pregnant but had a m/c with twins. hen because of my fears, we didn't try for a while and finally got pregnant in 2002. Since my youngest, we have been TTC on/off since mid-2003.
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July 25th, 2006, 12:04 PM
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well...sort of! after i had savanna, i said i'd NEVER have another...due to all the complications of giving birth and such....then about 1 year before i actually starting TTC again...is when i really started wanting another one! dh didn't want to ttc right when i wanted to...so we waited about 6 months...then it took us 5 months to get preggo!
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July 25th, 2006, 12:10 PM
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No not really. Daniel was very much planned, but I didn't plan on there being 14 years between him and James.

I had James in 1991 and always knew that I wanted one more, but my ex had other plans and had a vasecotomy in 1994. I was single for a while and of course didn't try then. I tried for 3 years with an ex boyfriend and never got pregnant, which is fortunate since we broke up.
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July 25th, 2006, 12:19 PM
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No, it wasnt planned that way. after I had my first I wanted to put maybe 2 years between them. but then my oldest started to have speech and other delays and I wasnt sure if I wanted to go through that anymore, so I delayed trying for a while. then I decided that it would be better if he had a sibling instead of being an only child. so I went off the pill. that would have put three years between them, but it took me 10 months to get pregnant so there is four years between them.
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July 25th, 2006, 12:57 PM
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No...I didn't plan it that way. I turned 18 not even a month before Zach was born. I was a single mom for 5 years. I wanted to have a baby right after dh and I got married but he didn't want another one yet so we waited until we were both ready.
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July 25th, 2006, 02:40 PM
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No I didn't plan it that way. Christian is my stepson(born in 93), I had Michael in 97, Devon in 98, then I really wanted one more but no matter how hard DH and I tried I never got pregnant. I gave up, then found out I was 9 weeks pregnant with Nick...had him in 2003. Then DH and I started TTC when Nick was 10 months old because we expected it to take years and I got pregnant the first cycle, and had Kiera in 2005. I wish there wasn't such a large gap between Devon and the rest of the kids but I think God knew what he was doing.
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July 25th, 2006, 05:28 PM
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not really. My oldest are from my ex husband. They were both girls and he had said we might try later for one more so that he could have a boy but we divorced when my 2nd was 6 months old. Then I decided to be a single mom and go to school and met my dh 6 years later and we got pregnant right away and we knew right after ds was born we would want another but didn't start trying until he turned 2 and again got preg right out the gate!!
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July 25th, 2006, 05:30 PM
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Not exactly planned that way....

I was only 16 when my son Alex was conceived and still in high school.
I had decided that I did not want any more than 5 years apart.....
But then I had decided to go to university, finished my degree, and eventually met my df
And then came our little Gracie! (yes, she was planned)
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July 26th, 2006, 11:49 AM
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No really. After our second one came along, I always said that I didn't want anymore. Then we just changed our minds one day and here we are trying for one more.
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July 26th, 2006, 02:04 PM
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It wasn't the plan for me either. I recently remarried and this is our first baby together!
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July 26th, 2006, 03:32 PM
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Not planned. My older 2 are 2.5 years apart and a perfect gap. Dh did NOT want anymore, but I was having baby fever. Dh said NO WAY no more, 2 was plenty and I was ok w/that. Then a couple months later I found out I was pregnant w/Hannah. What an awesome blessing.
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July 28th, 2006, 08:10 AM
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kinda planned....we had talked about it but I wasn't sure I wanted another one and then I found out I was pregnant! Now I don't know what I would do w/out her!!!
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July 28th, 2006, 08:14 AM
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We planned on the 5 year gap. Sara, my first, was not planned (but definitely wanted!). Eric was planned so that Sara would be in kindergarten when he was born so we would not have 2 in daycare at the same time. It was too much of an expense.
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July 28th, 2006, 09:10 AM
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No. My husband and I separated when Avery was 2 and I remained single for over a year. When I met Mike, I didn't think I wanted to have any more kids and he didn't want any either. We ended up "accidentally" pregnant in January, but m/c. After that we realized how much we wanted a child together, and now here we are. I never wanted children close together, but never anticipated them being this far apart either.
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July 28th, 2006, 10:24 AM
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Emma wasn't planned, I had her 1 month before my 19th b-day. I decided that I didn't want to have anymore children until I was married, then her father and I split up (we were engaged).

I met Kevin when Emma was just over a year old, and we were married in June of '05 and are now awaiting our first child together!
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July 28th, 2006, 02:02 PM
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Gavin was def. a SUPRISE! I had been single since Nicholas was born and for the longest time it was just Nic and I ... then I met Antonio (Gavin's Daddy) and we dated for a year and now we have Mister Gavin!
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July 28th, 2006, 08:18 PM
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Ours were not purposely seven years apart. We had Paige after we had been married for three years. When Paige was 2 we started trying again, got pregnant the first month, but ended up miscarrying. Then it took us five long years to conceive again. The funny thing is my sister and I are also seven years apart.

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July 28th, 2006, 08:45 PM
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Our toddler was planned. My older DS was from a short marriage when I was young and we divorced when he was 5 months old. I started dating my now DH and together we had 4 kids that lived with us. I wanted one more and my DH said let's wait until the kids are older (they were all little at the time) and we're more financially stable. When the youngest was finally 11 years old, we TTC and got pregnant in 3 weeks. I am so happy that my little guy is here but now we both kinda wish we had done it sooner because the other kids are practically grown and even though we have more money, we have less energy because we're older.
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July 30th, 2006, 04:35 PM
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Nope, not planned. Alyssa took a few years to conceive, I started getting broody for another baby when she was about 7 or 8.
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