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October 25th, 2010, 06:59 PM
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I recently became Facebook friends with an ex of mine. Oh my FSM, did I ever love this guy! We were great friends, had a great relationship, etc, etc. Well, he broke up with me out of the blue for not being "Christian enough" for him (ha! I wasn't at all Christian!). I didn't get it though, not at that stage in my life. I just didn't see why that had to matter. It's not like I was out sacrificing goats in graveyards or something. I made an utter fool of myself over him for a long time to come. He had never expressed anything about religion to me, and for it to come out of the blue like that really, really hurt. It made me feel quite worthless that he couldn't see all the good in me that had nothing to do with imaginary friends.

Fast-forward to now. Holy cripes, this guy is insane! Super-conservative, super-religious, anti-Halloween, anti-gay rights, and everything else that makes me want bang my head against the wall. He 'likes' Glenn Beck's FB page, for crying out loud! Part of me wants to call him up and thank him for his foresight back then (while the other part of me wants to just reach through the screen and shake him)! My naivety could have ruined a good chunk of my life. I can just picture us now-divorced with kids stuck in the middle, or me trying to pretend to be something I'm not, and resenting the hell out of him for it.

I think I will hug my lovably agnostic husband a little tighter tonight.

Anyone else have a similar story?
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October 25th, 2010, 07:58 PM
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Yep, I've got one of those exes. Not QUITE as extreme as yours, I don't think, but I definitely tire of all the god posts on almost a daily basis. Plus, he got really fat and hairy and ugly since highschool. Glad that one didn't work out!!!
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October 25th, 2010, 08:38 PM
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haha, I thought I dodged a bullet when I found out the guy I liked from highschool through college watches Bill O'Reilly. I think you dodged more than a bullet, maybe a planet-sized astroid hurtling towards Earth!
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October 26th, 2010, 11:29 AM
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Yes, I have a similar story. Except I should have known it from the start. "I can't marry you unless you accept Jesus Christ into your heart." I was only 15, though. I wasn't thinking of marriage, just that I was dating a cool older guy!

I love this irony: the place where we would go to make out (and once got caught by the police) is the parking lot of the megachurch to which he now belongs!
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October 26th, 2010, 12:14 PM
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I love this irony: the place where we would go to make out (and once got caught by the police) is the parking lot of the megachurch to which he now belongs!
Hahahaha! I love it!
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October 26th, 2010, 08:05 PM
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my ex was just a jerk. lol not a conserv religious one really, just a huge jerk.

i do adore my agnostic, super liberal hubby though
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October 27th, 2010, 01:34 AM
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I have a "friend" from high school (she deleted me months ago over a debate on my page regarding hitting your children in the face) who used to be sort of religious, but not too overbearing. All of a sudden she's up God's *** these days. A few months ago I saw a woman at the grocery store smack her 1 year old in the face for throwing a sippy cup out of their shopping cart. I posted about it on FB and numerous people responded. It somehow evolved into a debate about spanking and physical discipline. She was actually saying that God condones violence in the Bible so it's OK to use it on your kids if necessary and blah blah blah and then she deleted me when a few friends called her out on her inconsistencies. She said numerous other things about how it doesn't matter if you spank or not, if you don't raise your child to know God's will then there is no hope for their life anyways. I'm glad she deleted me quickly, because I was 1 click away from deleting her.
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October 27th, 2010, 02:13 AM
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I remember that debate, Melissa. I don't remember if I chimed in or not, but I do remember thinking that woman was a whole mess of walking crazy! A lot of times, when I am on the verge of deleting someone, I remember the tagline over at Failbook.com... "Too funny to unfriend"
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November 1st, 2010, 12:01 AM
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Oh wow. You got really lucky! It wasn't meant to be!

Um, I don't really have any of those type of exes...

To think of it, none of my past boyfriends were religious

I guess I attract my kind!
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