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Hello everyone! Im new to this board (obviously) but I have been peeking my nose in for quite some time now. I have no religious beliefs what so ever, but DH was raised mormon, and his entire family is strict mormon. He is not so much, but he still does believe in god and all that what ever. I do not. Needless to say, this subject is an agree to disagree one among us! My family is not religious but they all seem appalled that I do not believe in god, the afterlife and such. I am not open about this at all. I am afraid of what others will think of me. I live in Utah which is mormon-ville USA. DHs family has no idea how I feel and I think they would probably disown me if they knew LOL.
I am wondering of you all are open about it or if you hide it from others. Only my close family members and a few close friends know how I feel. If you are open, how do others treat you when they find out?
Though I haven't talked about it with any of my family beyond my parents (they're both agnostic, but definitely don't believe in any religion's idea of deities) they can all see on my facebook info that I'm atheist and no one has ever said anything to me about it. My grandma is religious, but she's also the most open and accepting person I know, and if she were to ask me, I would be honest with her. I'm honest with all my friends, many of whom are very devout Christians (I live in the most religious state in the nation, Mississippi, ick.) A few have mysteriously unfriended me without a word and my attitude is that it's THEIR loss if they want to lose a friend over religious beliefs, but most just don't bring it up. The only people I hide my atheism from is my in-laws. I don't think they'd really have much of a hissy over it, they're pretty open people and we're pretty sure they know my husband is an atheist anyway even though they've never really talked about it, but the topic has never come up and I'm certainly not going to be the one to start that conversation. I don't think they'd disown me or my husband or anything (we recently found out his brother is atheist too, so that makes two out of three kids in that family that rejected religion) and I don't really care if they know outright, but DH wants to remain closeted to his parents so I hide my atheism from them as well since they'd probably figure out that if he wasn't an atheist himself, he likely wouldn't have married one.
Anyone else can know though, and it's their choice whether to be an a-hole about it or not. Like I said, it's their loss.
I think like most people, I am half open, half closet. For many years I was very big into Pagan/Wiccan just because I felt those were more than Christianity. But as of 2010, I am full blown atheist. I am open with all of my close friends, most of my family. My best friend is a pure Christian woman, but unlike some, she doesn't see why that should stop us from being friends. I am very open minded, most around here are not. Small town---gotta love it! So I have slowly tested the waters with people at work and such. By now you would think they would get that I am an atheist, but some people around here aren't the smartest. So not sure how they see me.
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Hey there. I haven't posted in here at all, so hello. Anyway, I do not share with my family because they are very religious and I wouldn't hear the end of it. Dh's family knows we don't subscribe to any religion. I think my family *may* know but turn a blind eye. I don't display it and force it down anyone's throat and they return the favor. Its just...awkward.
I must admit that I do keep it to myself for the most part, but it does bother me that it is accepted and encouraged to be open about being religious, but frowned upon (put nicely) to be a non-believer!! At least where I live!
I am both as well. Most people that really know me know, but there are a few that don't. My mom's parents being the biggest in the don't know group. My mom is terrified if they find out we will never hear the end of it. Grandma is a little dramatic about stuff, so she is probably right.
If asked I will not lie about my beliefs, I did that once when I was first giving up my faith and have felt bad about it ever since, but like most of the rest of you I don't try to shove how I believe into other people's faces unless they do it first. DH on the other hand is more on the shoving, particularly where facebook is concerned. LOL I also live in the south, and I do worry at work if clients found out many would refuse to see me for that reason alone, but all my co-workers know.
Yes and no. It is a known fact within my immediate, extended family. Though my parents have no issues with it, the extended part of my family is not at all happy about it. They pretty much blame my husband for his "bad influence" on me. On one hand it is comical, on the other I am furious they think I am so easily influenced and feeble minded. But for my only living grandparent, well, I have promised my mother that I will accept, graciously, all religious trinkets and books, since we are not sure how long grandma will be around. I have agreed to do this since grandma isn't able to travel and will never know that I do not have those items.
I'm very open. I wasn't in the past because I was too afraid of what others would think of me, but I don't care anymore. If people want to believe they're superior in their ignorance, so be it. I think becoming a mom really gave me the push I needed to stand proud. I will not allow my daughter to be brainwashed by anyone, and my husband and I want her to see that there is nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to hide in being atheist/agnostic.
Most people know that my husband and I are non-believers. My family definitely knows, and maybe half of my in-laws do. It doesn't come up much with them, and I see no point in initiating a conversation about it. If religion does come up, then I will have no problems sharing my feelings on the matter.
Our circle of friends consists mostly lapsed xtians and Catholics. Some believe, some don't, but none of them are militant. We don't discuss it a whole lot, and no one judges anyone else about it.
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im pretty open about it...i think the only people who dont really know are my inlaws and dh's grandparents (dont wanna give his grandparents a heart attack or anything!) but i think his parents probably suspect LOL...and his brothers know...as probably anyone else in his family that has a facebook account haha...cause its plainly written on there that im an atheist lol
I'm a minister's daughter and my husband was raised so strictly in his religion that their church required kids to go to boarding school from 6-12th grade.
Our families know we don't go to church, but I think they are all waiting for us to change our minds. We are pretty much "in the closet" in order to keep peace among family. I also work in a job where future promotions and assignments could be affected if people knew I wasn't christian. Sad, but true. I don't pretend to be Christian, I just avoid the topic.