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My name is Becky, I am pregnant with my frist child, I'm due December 31 of this year. I am working on a Phd in philosophy and I teach philosophy part time. Both DH and I are atheists.
I was really happy to find this group because one of the things I'm really worried about is how to deal with importanat people in your life who are religious. I do not believe in indoctrinating children in religious belief when they are intellectually defenseless.
My mother, and now my dad too, are both devout christians (I was raised Catholic). Most of my mom's side of the family is very religious.
So how did you deal with things like rejecting getting your baby baptized, choosing "god parents" that are not really god parents, etc.?
Did you guys make clear boundaries with your family (if they are religious) about what they can and cannot do or say to your child?
Hi Becky and welcome!
Luckily I have not had to deal with pushy family members and was raised without a strong religious presence in my life. My DH's mom is catholic, but as all 6 of her kids have lapsed, she's already been broken in. lol. Our kids don't have God parents. The closest we've come to that is sitting down with my BIL and SIL and asking them if they would be willing to care for our kids if we were both killed (and then putting that in our will).
I know some of the other moms on here have been through the issues you are going to be dealing with. So they may have experiences to share with you.
Congrats on your pregnancy. Good luck!
I’m Sarah (39), wife to Chris (40), mom to three boys (age 0, 3 and 5)
We didn't have a ton of issues. My in-laws mentioned dedicating the baby often. We just kept casually ignoring them and changing the subject until they finally dropped it. No god parent requests. We don't really have "official" boundaries. We kind of address things as we need to so we don't put pressure on anyone or come across as accusatory with no reason to. KWIM?
Good luck with your pregnancy and welcome!!!
I'm in a similar situation to you. Sometimes I just ignore them, sometimes I calmly explain. It's no point arguing with them because they are so indoctrinated in their ways. Hubby and I are comfortable with our decisions, and that is what matters.
Liz (30), mum to Mia (5) and Aiden (3)