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After losing my baby at 9 weeks back in September, I have come to find that religious people often say the most insensitive things regarding the loss.
These are some wonderful quotes from them.
"God has a different plan for you."
My response: And killing my baby was part of it? Why can't I have my baby and do whatever plan he has in store for me?
"God doesn't give you anything that you can't handle."
Response: Why would God give me a miscarriage simply because I can handle it? Does he beat down strong people regularly just to see how much they can take?
"It wasn't meant to be."
Response: Thank you for minimizing my loss.
"You're baby is in heaven with God now."
Response: What a selfish dick. Apparently he has billions of people up there with him already.
"God must not what you to be a parent."
Response: And why does God have a say in what I want or do? Sorry but it's my choice when I want to be a parent, not God's. Any why would he want that woman who killed all five of her kids to be a parent over me?
"Children are a gift from God."
Response: Yes thanks for saying this only weeks after I had an m/c. You really know how to make a grieving person feel better.
"It's all part of his plan."
Response: Killing my baby was part of his plan? What kind of a sick ******* is this? Why is it that when he goes around and slays random people it's ok?
Ok really had to get that off my chest. I've about had it with a family member. Can you imagine saying any of that to someone who lost a 1, 3, 5, 6, 8, 10 year old?
If someone punched a pregnant woman in the stomach and caused her to miscarry, everyone would call that person a monster. But people are ok with God causing a miscarriage? ***?
I am so sorry for your loss... I can't say how I would react in that situation if it were me... but at the moment, I would like to think it wouldn't be very nicely. It just doesn't seem very thought out to me. Ugh.
Some of your replies made me laugh out loud because you are so right, what they say just doesn't make sense. "it's part of his plan".. nice, making me pregnant and happy and then taking away my baby is his plan?... why making me pregnant in the first place!" ... Their God is a freaking ******
I know this was an old post, and I am actually a practicing Catholic, but I wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I know too well the insensitive things said to those of us who have had losses. It is a difficult situation and nothing said can make it any better and it's best if people just don't say anything. Again, I am sorry for your loss.
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