Log In Sign Up

Preparing for a tough month


Forum: Atheist and Agnostic Parenting

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Atheist and Agnostic Parenting LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
September 16th, 2006, 03:35 PM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 3,496
Well, it looks like we will be spending about a month and a half in central and south american with relatives starting November 13th. Originally, we were just going to visit my family in Panama for a week at Thanksgiving, but due to some health issues in my husband's family, we are extending out trip until the beginning of January.

Dh has been working on talking his company into allowing him to promote product in central and south america to allow for us to take this long trip. On one hand, Ive been cheering for him, but now that he has clearence and is starting this program for his company, I can't get my mind off the length of this trip.

And it's not because I don't want to be away that long or the traveling; I miss family and I can't wait to see them all.

But...

There is already jokes coming my way via email about "converting" our kids. Ok, they are just jokes...but this is the longest I have spent in these countries since we got out of them about a decade ago! The weight of noncatholic guilt when I go for just a week is astounding.

They pray in the morning, at meals, before car trips to the store. You can't refuse to go to Church without family breaking down into tears. There's crosses everywhere....etcetc

When I was there, I never saw it as really bothering me...it was a backdrop to life almost, but now that we are non believers, I feel like it presses in on your harder.

And, what's worse, my oldest daughter can understand now and a month....I can only imagine the things they will say to her when my husband and I are not there.

I don't know how to handle my apprehension about this. A month and a half is a looooong time.

I don;t know if I'm asking for advice of trying to just get this off my mind. But here it is.

ETA: I should add my daughter is three so when I mean "understand" I suppose I mean more that she can be communicated to/ about this.
__________________
taking jm breaks if you don't see me around much
Reply With Quote
  #2  
September 17th, 2006, 01:27 PM
NaynayPie's Avatar Super Mommy
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Hiding somewhere in IL
Posts: 986
Send a message via AIM to NaynayPie
That does sound stressful. I guess you could have a low-key nightly chat with your daughter and if the coversation leads to religion help her understand that even though some people believe, you and your husband have chosen to not believe. At three I bet she'll ask a lot of why questions. I used to know a website where you could buy books for young children to help them understand religion from an atheist point of view. I couldn't find it but if I do I'll post it on here.

Good luck! If you can get on the computer feel free to come gripe to us.

~Nay
__________________
<div align="center"><span style="font-family:Book Antiqua">[b]I'm A
Natural Birthing, Delayed-Vaxing, Sleep Sharing, Baby Wearing, Tandem Breastfeeding, Cloth Diapering, Never Spanking Mama to two Beautiful, Healthy and Intact Little Babies
</div>
Reply With Quote
  #3  
September 21st, 2006, 03:26 PM
Number_3's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Western PA
Posts: 1,122
Ooh Naynay...if you find that link, please do post it!

Well, I wish you the best on your trip Isabellamom. My family are all RC and I know the guilt thing all too well. Add into the mix the cultural superstition (I have a Latino and Italian family) and it's magnified.

I'm not even sure where to begin with a 3 year old. My older 2 kids were not really exposed to it on a regular basis, and when they were that age, I was still teetering on the idea myself. Our youngest one will most def. have questions that the first two didn't have until later, so I'm trying to prepare ahead of time....like the commercial where the mom is talking to her daughter about not smoking cigarettes while she's sitting in the high-chair
__________________
<span style="font-family:Comic Sans Ms">Kelly</span>
Reply With Quote
  #4  
September 21st, 2006, 10:27 PM
kadydid
Guest
Posts: n/a
I wish you the best of luck! I don't have any great words of advice except, have a good time and count to ten a lot.
Reply With Quote
  #5  
September 22nd, 2006, 10:42 AM
mrobinson
Guest
Posts: n/a
Quote:
I wish you the best of luck! I don't have any great words of advice except, have a good time and count to ten a lot. [/b]


Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 10:11 PM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0