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January 12th, 2007, 01:46 PM
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First of all, these people KNOW that I don't believe in God. But they still persist in being rude.

So we're at DF's sister's house. His mom was NOT supposed to be there (she was supposed to be in church, actually!) but she skipped out on her other obligations and came to eat dinner. We all sit down and she looks straight at me while she says "Why don't we say grace?".



There's this awkward silence until DF says "Because we NEVER said grace before, mom, not one day in my life." And he starts eating. Well she gets all huffy and pushes her plate away. She says "I am not eating until I thank the Lord!" and then starts saying her personal little grace. VERY loud and VERY distracting, and included something about being in the presence of those who might lead her astray. I can't sit and have a meal with someone like that. I took Davin (my nephew), since he wanted to come, and left. I know DF stayed behind and argued with her over whether that was appropriate but I have no clue what was said. I did ask his sister later whether she recently started saying grace and she said NO, that it the only time she's ever done it.

I don't understand why she has to hate me. And even if she hates me, I don't get why she has to SHOW it so much. Does she not want her son to be happy?

What the heck was I supposed to do?
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January 12th, 2007, 02:48 PM
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Ouch! I'm sorry that the woman who is to be your future MIL was so insensitive, spiteful even. That would have rightly p'd me off as well. I'm probably the LAST person anyone should ask about how to handle any confrontational type of situation because I usually take the no-bull**** approach (sometimes to a fault).

My inlaws are pretty much just as tactful as that, so I choose to take the 5th with regard to my personal beliefs most of the time. Perhaps when my kids are all grown I will have the pleasure of telling them exactly what time it is. >:-)
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January 12th, 2007, 09:58 PM
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It makes people uncomfortable to be around those that are not 'like minded'. Just say to her "I thought your religion taught love and acceptance." See what she has to say about that. Don't let it bother you, you are marrying her son, not her.
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February 6th, 2007, 09:59 PM
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It makes people uncomfortable to be around those that are not 'like minded'. Just say to her "I thought your religion taught love and acceptance." See what she has to say about that. Don't let it bother you, you are marrying her son, not her.[/b]
Oh snap! But I would recommend treading carefully if you choose this route.
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