[TTC#1inNC]

I am moving onto cycle 9, part of me is upset about it of course and the other part of me is OK with it. In a couple of weeks we will be going to a friends house for Superbowl Sunday and she is pregnant. We were there for New Years and the only thing she did all night was talk about her pregnancy, her mood swings, this food makes me want to throw up.....you get the picture (and really - every other sentence had to do with her being pregnant). I wound up being noticeably quiet all night. I know it doesn't sound like it but I am happy for her. She had been trying for a while and had a MC a few months ago, but it is just hard for me handle and her telling me don't worry it will happen doesn't make me feel any better. I know when my time comes I will want to be the same way - talking about my pregnancy - but I like to think if I was around a friend I knew was having a hard time getting pregnant I would tone it down a bit, you know?

So how do I spend the evening there and put on a happy face? I am hoping one of my other friends will be there too and it will keep me distracted but they travel a lot and aren't always around.

[Melissa3]

I know what you mean. Even though we have only been ttc for a month - I have been wanting for over a year. My SO just finally decided the time was right...but he knows how badly I want it. Anyway, we go to a friends house every Sunday to watch football and she too, is pregnant. She had a m/c then got pregnant again (and now is due in March).

Im happy for them, I really am. But its hard to go and have the talk be all about it when you want it so bad yourself.

Just slap on the happy face and keep thinking "it'll happen"...its what I do.

Hang in there! I know its hard.

[Angel.Eyes4351]

2 of the couples that DH and I hang out with are pregnant. One of them has been trying for well over a year, though... so I guess I was kind of asking her a lot of questions last time since I'm newish to all of this TTC stuff. And then she was asking me questions about pregnancy because I've been there before.

But it's totally normal to be feeling this way. I hope she does tone it down a bit. If she is a good enough friend, you'd think she'd realize you being noticeably silent, and wonder if it is her being insensitive.

[KellersMom517]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I have to say that, for some reason, when you are pregnant it's all anybody wants to talk about - at least it was for me! So if you were around other people too maybe they were asking a lot of questions or bringing it up a lot too...I remember thinking so many times "I really shouldn't be talking about my pregnancy so much", but that's all anybody ever asked about!

Believe me, when you get your BFP you will want to shout it from the rooftops!!!! And you will want friends that want to listen. I'm not trying to minimize your feelings, I'm sure it is incredibly difficult to go through I hope there are more people there that you can talk to!

[eccomi]

concentrate on the game! all kidding aside, i know it isn't easy. very few people know that we are TTC so i just have to grin & bear it when i'm around women that are pregnant or when people ask me (all the time) "so when are YOU TWO going to start trying?" if only i could say "we've been trying since july so lay off!" hang in there christine... we're in the same boat!

[HopefulMommy81]

Ugh, Christine, I can totally sympathize with you, hon! I don't have really any good suggestions, because nothing I've done has really made it much better, except that DH usually tries to steer topics for us away from pregnancy/babies. I hope your other friend is there to distract you! Also, would it be possible for maybe your DH to talk about it to her DH....I don't know, sometimes men can do that, and other times it'd make it worse. Good luck, hon, and know we're here for you!

[natsmom]

Just think, you have all these lovely ladies on here supporting and ready to hear how things went.

I totally understand how you feel. 5 years ago my sister in law and I were pregnant at the same time. I lost our baby, but she was still pregnant. Because of my endo they told me I would have problems in the future. She had absolutely no simpathy for me and gloated in her own happiness. I had to carry on with her shower and being around her child for 4 years until we were finally pregnant with our daughter.

Some women either are oblivious about what they are doing or actually enjoy it. Even if you are struggling to be happy and supportive I would still try. When you are pregnant maybe she will share happiness with you. Will be thinking and praying for you on SS. Just know you can come vent to us after your get together.

Hugs!!!

[pianogirl]

That is tough. I have a friend who is the same way. When I had my cp in October after almost 1 1/2 years of trying she continued every day to tell me how sick she was and on and on about her pregnancy. I made the mistake of speaking to her because she kept avoiding talking to me about the difficulties I was having with the first mc and then the cp and her comment was "I don't think you are happy for me that I'm pregnant" so I quickly learned to be quiet and I now realize there are some friends who get it and others who don't. So hang in there and hopefully she won't do it again...or maybe you will come down with a cold and can't go Hopefully someone else will be there who won't want to talk about the pregnancy as well.