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November 30th, 2010, 09:44 AM
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Hey ladies,

Just been feeling bummed out today, and though I would come on and share I'm totally disappointed that I'm not pregnant, DH said he was upset, but of course he doesn't show it like I do He was cute the other night though and asked when AF would be done so we could start trying IMMEDIATLY. It was cute and shows that he wants this baby too
If December isn't my month, I'm not sure what I'm going to do.
Any tips for this month? I'm pretty sure I O on the 15th, will be taking an OPK, (though I did last month too). I'm not sure what else I am supposed to do
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November 30th, 2010, 10:26 AM
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You are doing all you can. Try not to let it get you down. I understand, as I think we all do, the dissapointment every month when we get that BFN, you are doing all you can possibly do. The rest is out of our hands. it's amazing it happens at all. Try not to stress too much because that can affect you. Try to just relax (easier said I know) and know that it will happen one day....
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November 30th, 2010, 10:58 AM
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You are doing all you can. Try not to let it get you down. I understand, as I think we all do, the dissapointment every month when we get that BFN, you are doing all you can possibly do. The rest is out of our hands. it's amazing it happens at all. Try not to stress too much because that can affect you.


It's so easy to get bummed, but do your best to keep positive! We're here for you!
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November 30th, 2010, 11:02 AM
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Don't you wish there were some magic cure to feeling better during AF? I do! I'd share if I had one. I'm sorry it's so tough. I understand feeling so frustrated that sometimes I wish I didn't care about having a family, but it sounds like you have some good support at home with your man.

Do you have a hobby you can pick up during AF time? Something to take out all your passionate frustration on? I'm very creative, so I have to have something productive and usually beautiful to do when I feel that AF's arrival has once again thwarted my hopes and dreams. Maybe there is some passion you could get focused on -- even if it's just knocking nails into a fence! I knit, I bake bread (better than baking pies, or we'd all be quite chubby), I clean and reorganize my side table decorations, sometimes I re-pot a plant or start a new one (my AZ soil is not great so I use pots a lot). Seasonal annuals are a great pick-me-up for very little cost. I wander through one of the antique stores in town and see if I can find ridiculously great deals for old frames for my house. If I didn't make myself "indulge" in creativity during AF, I'd sit in a puddle watching chick flicks, eating too much, and torturing myself with buying the odd cute baby item as a "hopeful someday" that would really just depress me more! Even just buying yourself a bunch of 3 dollar carnations and arranging them beautifully in several old wine bottles around the house might cheer you up a bit.

I'm with you TTC for December. I FAM chart, which can help pinpoint ovulation a bit more precisely than opk for some people. Sounds like you're doing the right things. Try to BD as often as you can most of the month, as more output means the sperm factory will be used to using lots at a time and replenishing the stores quickly, which gives you a higher chance. And try to BD every day, or at least every other day, when your cervical fluid is creamy or more. Don't just wait for EW, as that varies in length for each woman. One lady might have 4 days of EW and another has 4 hours. So go with creamy.
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November 30th, 2010, 02:00 PM
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We are all in the same boat and I wish it were that easy to conceive, then the worrying and stress of being in the TWW would be gone! But, unfortunately that's not the case for many of us.

Hang in there, you are doing all you can and just trust your body to do it's job. By the way, BD should be FUN!!....it is the fun part, right, ladies??!!

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November 30th, 2010, 02:08 PM
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Thank you PurpleTurtle I shall have to think of something creative to do during AF.

My friend told me today, while watching Twins By Surprise, that Yams will increase your chances of twins? That it tricks your body into dropping another egg? Maybe this would help with conceiving at all?? Sounds far fetched..
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November 30th, 2010, 03:09 PM
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I was watching that but missed the answer to the true or false yam question....intersting it was positive....i wonder if there are more incidents of twins conceived around thanksgiving time
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November 30th, 2010, 03:40 PM
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I know exactly how you feel! Im due to Ovulate around the 15th too. We could be cycle buddies!
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November 30th, 2010, 06:12 PM
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Sorry to hear your still down. I know its dissapointing Ive gotten plenty of BFN's but you have to remember you only have at most a 25% chance each month and you've only been trying for one month. You are plenty young and healthy and it will happen before you know it. Ok I know that doesnt make you feel better but I would give anything to be in your shoes and I used to be like you. Than DH had a stupid vasectomy and now it will probably take us a good year to conceive and thats with only a 50% chance of it working at all. And than if it doesnt work we are going to have to drop atleast 20k on IVF. You seriously have it so good. I know this sounds rude but try looking around on the TTC with infertility forum and you will be very thankful for your situation. You will get pregnant! Dont freak out so soon. Its not even that common to conceive on the very first try. You really have it so good and it will happen! Remember that!
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November 30th, 2010, 06:34 PM
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...And yet the heart-longing for a child is not lessened simply by saying it should be so due to certain circumstances. One might see a mother who has two healthy children with her already, and wonder why she would plan to spend large amounts of money and health and time on increasing that number again, and in wondering might overlook her heart-longing as something of lesser value than that of a mother yet-to-be. Our circumstances are all different. It does not matter whether we are here to conceive a first or a tenth child, if we have struggled with health issues or not, or if we are even a single mother doing IVF alone. We are here to support each other.
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November 30th, 2010, 07:10 PM
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Not saying it doesnt hurt for all. Just saying might want to come back to reality before you make yourself depressed month after month or go crazy. Hopefully you will get a BFP soon and statistically your have a 9/10 chance over the next year! So try to stay positive and just keep doing what your doing but try to hang in there because it can sometimes take several tries but it will happen! Whenever I get a BFN I try to look at it as a little longer to be able to get even more healthy, or loose more weight, or cut back on coffee more, save more money or whatever your trying to improve for your new baby. Believe me I know how it feels to want a child and not get it, we are facing a lot of possible complications and at times I felt like I would just about die. But you really have to find a way to stay strong and positive or your going to go crazy. After a year of freaking out about the statistical chance of a vasectomy reversal failing I have finally been able to take a more positive outlook and approach and I feel so much better. I really hope you can find a way to stay positive even when you dont conceive right away. It will feel so much better. I know nothing I say probably helps so I guess Ill check out. but I hope this cycle will bring you a new little miracle!
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November 30th, 2010, 07:18 PM
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Sorry I came across as unsupportive. Thats not what I meant. Maybe I dont say things right but I do know what it feels like and I know how bad it hurts but I also learned that you have to look at what you do have going for you and I was just trying to remind you that you are young, healthy, fertile, and not to worry you will get your baby!
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December 1st, 2010, 05:36 AM
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Awe ladies. It did come off a little... Not unsupportive, but strong? Is that the word I'm looking for? However I also know that what we want to say, and they way others will read our typing is often very different. While you meant to be supportive and kind, it was read as a different meaning, but I understand all the same
While I understand, that I'm young (and SHOULD be fertile ) I still worry. We were NTNP since my daughter was born, almost 22 months back. It's in my nature to worry I can't help it lol. I also know that there are people out there who would KILL to be in my shoes. But you know what? I would KILL to be in the shoes of the mother who "accidentally" get pregnant, without keeping track while I'm trying like there's no tomorrow to get pregnant. My mother has always told me, "When you think you have no shoes, look at your neighbor, they have no feet". But you know what? I don't care about my neighbor, and I know that sounds horrid, but to each their own. While I understand that someone else out there, who isn't fertile or has way more complications is going through a harder time, doesn't mean that this time for me, right now, isn't hard.
I know that it was only our second month of officially trying, but I thought that after DD was conceived as a surprise, it would be easy for the second one too. So I still have to overcome the initial shock of that before I can finally accept that it's going to take some time. I know I went crazy this month, but I will learn to calm down, all things take time right? Even making babies apparently

I appreciate what you had to say, and don't take offence to anything that was said. I know that while I read it one way, you may have meant it a completely different way when you were typing it out. I think that's why arguements can start so quickly on boards.

But thank you ladies, I love the support and the ideas as to how to cope with this little bit of stress in my life
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