[seri0uslyc0nfused]

When I got my BFP, my temp was still kinda low. I think after my O temp dip, the highest my temp got was around 98.05 which was way lower the months I didn't have a BFP. I quit temping after I got the BFP, so I don't know what my temp did after that. But today its 97.52, which is "normal" for me during the start of a cycle.

Ok so the question is....do you think my low temp from the beginning was a bad sign?

I know I shouldn't be trying to analyze or figure out what happened, but I would like to know if there were more warning signs that I could look for next time.

[jmichelle77]

*lurker*

Your low temps could indicate a progesterone deficiency. Maybe you could have your doc test your progesterone and/or prescribe a supplement to take during your leutal phase "just in case". That's what I do. I start 200 mg of Prometrium daily orally after ovulation is confirmed on FF.

[junie22]

I'd agree. If you're waiting out this cycle to try, especially, you could ask your doc to do the 7 DPO progesterone test. Then you could get on supplements for the next cycle you TTC.

[seri0uslyc0nfused]

Ok so I'm not crazy We did the progesterone test in Nov, the month I got my BFP. But she didn't say anything about the results when I went in pregnant and I just didn't think about asking, maybe my biggest mistake.

I really need to make a list of what I'm going to talk to her about when I go Wednesday. I know I can't do anything about what happened, but if it could have been prevented, I will be the biggest pain in the butt patient when I do get my BFP again!

[junie22]

I used those exact words with my doctor yesterday... pain in the butt patient... I'm not even kidding. And she just laughed and said it was totally okay. I went into the appointment thinking I was going to have to fight her to get what I wanted, but she was so accommodating. The truth is that your doctor will want you to get pregnant again and stay pregnant. And, as my doctor kept saying, "Whatever eases your mind and lets you enjoy your pregnancy!" So I'm sure all you have to do is ask, and she'll do whatever puts your mind at ease.

The truth is, Elaina, that your m/c was probably just random. We all want to know why something like this happens, but we forget that the vast majority of miscarriages are completely out of our hands or our doctor's hands. I can't remember the exact percentage (but it's very high) of miscarriages that are simply chromosomal abnormalities that were completely unavoidable. I've also seen another statistic that shows that the likelihood that a woman will experience a second miscarriage is decreased, and that number is even lower if she has already had a full-term pregnancy.

So you should ask your doctor about the progesterone, but I bet your next pregnancy will be just fine!

[seri0uslyc0nfused]

I totally agree with you, Adrienne and I know it was probably random but I think there are some things that I need to KNOW are OK so I will be comfortable during my next pregnancy.

This is probably going to sound ridiculous, but its actually the best way I can explain my outlook on all this.....

When I broke up with my "first love" after dating for 5 years I was totally heart broken and cried for like a week. I couldn't eat, sleep or barely function. But after awhile I stopped crying and kind of got mad and starting thinking about the good reasons why I wasn't with him anymore. Then the next stage is I starting hooking up with any guy that walked by me () to get my mind off of my ex . My 3 stage program totally worked in that situation and I plan on kind of doing the same thing here.
I cried for the past 4 days and I'm working to accept what happened and focus on the good stuff. And then instead of the random guys I will complete the 3rd stage with my husband. LOL. Which will hopefully lead to my next BFP

The only thing I'm doing this time is charting, B6 and OPKs. I think everything else just made me crazy and hopefully it happens quick this time without all the extra craziness.

[Mod-Lady Valkyrie]

I'm not an experienced enough charter to answer this, but wanted to offer big xxx

[junie22]

Elaina, we sound so much alike! And your analogy makes perfect sense. Being proactive while trying not to obsess will be just the ticket for you. I can't wait to see you get you next BFP.

[seri0uslyc0nfused]

Originally Posted by Lady Valkyrie

I'm not an experienced enough charter to answer this, but wanted to offer big xxx

Thank you

Originally Posted by junie22

Elaina, we sound so much alike! And your analogy makes perfect sense. Being proactive while trying not to obsess will be just the ticket for you. I can't wait to see you get you next BFP.

Thanks! Hopefully I won't be too far behind you!

[Kissthegirl]

This is something that I have worried & worried about, progesterone. I completely agree with Adrienne. Sometimes chemicals & miscarriages happen, and the likeness of them happening again are VERY slim. A lot of times a woman doesn't even know that she had a chemical. This is why I don't believe in testing too early, b/c it just gets your hopes up.
I would say that your fine. I think, surely, that the doctor would've mentioned something to you at your doctors appt. when you were prego if something was wrong with your progesterone as don't they normally put women on pills if theirs is low, at least until the 2nd trimester? Eh - that's what I've heard!

Anyways, I bet your fine! It's so easy to worry about what went wrong, but in the end, sometimes these things just happen!

FXed for you that you catch your sticky bean soon!

[seri0uslyc0nfused]

Originally Posted by Kissthegirl

This is something that I have worried & worried about, progesterone. I completely agree with Adrienne. Sometimes chemicals & miscarriages happen, and the likeness of them happening again are VERY slim. A lot of times a woman doesn't even know that she had a chemical. This is why I don't believe in testing too early, b/c it just gets your hopes up.
I would say that your fine. I think, surely, that the doctor would've mentioned something to you at your doctors appt. when you were prego if something was wrong with your progesterone as don't they normally put women on pills if theirs is low, at least until the 2nd trimester? Eh - that's what I've heard!

Anyways, I bet your fine! It's so easy to worry about what went wrong, but in the end, sometimes these things just happen!

FXed for you that you catch your sticky bean soon!

See and I had been worrying about progesterone for awhile before my BFP too, and that's why I'm so mad at myself for not asking about my results during my first apt. I was so distracted with the news about my cyst and the baby of course. Once I get that off of my mind I can move on I just always need something to freak out about I guess!

Thank you

[RunningMommyTo3]

Elaina, I totally agree with what's already been said. THis most likely had nothing at all to do with you, it just happens, as sad as it is. But, I would say that to ease your mind, you ask to be put on prometrium after O. After my m/c with my very first pregnancy, my MW said she highly doubted I needed the progestrone supplementation, but since it couldn't hurt anything at all and may help, she'd do it to ease my mind. I would plead that case to your dr, just do it for your sanity since it can't hurt. I'm glad you're moving through the stages and I have my FX'd that this will be your sticky BFP this or next cycle, whenever you decide to try in earnest again. I feel like I quickly go through the stages of grief after every unsuccesful cycle, LOL. Hurt and heartbroken, then to anger, then finally acceptance. It's a normal transition and you seem to be moving extremely well through it. (((Hugs)))

[seri0uslyc0nfused]

Originally Posted by RunningMommyTo3

Elaina, I totally agree with what's already been said. THis most likely had nothing at all to do with you, it just happens, as sad as it is. But, I would say that to ease your mind, you ask to be put on prometrium after O. After my m/c with my very first pregnancy, my MW said she highly doubted I needed the progestrone supplementation, but since it couldn't hurt anything at all and may help, she'd do it to ease my mind. I would plead that case to your dr, just do it for your sanity since it can't hurt. I'm glad you're moving through the stages and I have my FX'd that this will be your sticky BFP this or next cycle, whenever you decide to try in earnest again. I feel like I quickly go through the stages of grief after every unsuccesful cycle, LOL. Hurt and heartbroken, then to anger, then finally acceptance. It's a normal transition and you seem to be moving extremely well through it. (((Hugs)))

I'm hoping my Dr is willing to cater to my craziness.

I know what you mean about going through the feelings after every cycle, I am the same way, and I'm sure its going to be worse now!