Ready to stop TTC

mrsb1029 · #1 February 5th, 2012, 11:35 AM

TTC is very stressful and if I don't conceive this month, DH and I have decided to stop trying and just to let it happen, NTNP. At the beginning we thought it was easy to get pregnant, but now we know that it's harder than we thought. We will be leaving it in God's hands.
I prayed so hard last night I cried. I asked God to give me a sign and I dreamed of being pregnant with twins, but these pregnancy and baby dreams have happened many times in the past three months, so at this point we are going to leave it up to faith. But I won't give up hope that hopefully we will be blessed with a miracle someday.

lunar scallion · #2 February 5th, 2012, 01:03 PM

I'm sorry for the trouble you're having and I get how disappointing it gets. Maybe taking it easy next month will do the trick! It's tough to be so many cycles in and feel like all of these other people are just passing you by. Even now at cycle 7 I have to remind myself that it's still relatively normal to have to try this long and it doesn't necessarily mean there is a problem. Best of luck to you!

Caerus · #3 February 5th, 2012, 06:20 PM

Remember that it is considered normal to take 12 months to conceive. That said, I think we can all understand how hard this whole TTC thing is. Who would have thought this would be so hard?

Diamond2009 · #4 February 5th, 2012, 06:29 PM

I feel your heartache...i never thought it would be so hard TTC. I know its frustrating but i also believe everything is in gods hands ultimately. All we can do it give it all we got and hope it works. I hope you get your BFP this cycle. Fx'd

mrsb1029 · #5 February 5th, 2012, 06:53 PM

Thanks for the positive inputs, ladies. I'm just getting discouraged because this is our 6th cycle. I am hoping sometime this year that we will get our little miracle.

Allie_SMg · #6 February 5th, 2012, 08:24 PM

Mrsb I know it can be discouraging. We've gone through our 5th cycle now and I was really upset when I thought we missed my surge. My husband noticed I was getting so upset and he felt as if sex had become a chore and we had a long talk about this as well. He doesn't want to stop TTCing but I just wanted to let you know that we all go through this. There are ups and downs and it can be depressing (which probably isn't good for your body either). Just lean on your hubby and try not to stress out (I know, easier said than done!) it will happen when it's meant to happen and there does need to be a certain amount of faith involved.

Best of luck to you and the DH! *hugs*

sleepinangel · #7 February 6th, 2012, 09:51 AM

I understand how you feel, and maybe a cycle of just relaxing with no bbt or opk's is what's need for you right now, just remember we are here for you!!

LindsG241 · #8 February 6th, 2012, 11:47 AM

I'm SO right there with you right now. We are on our 6th month trying too and though in writing that doesn't seem like all that long, it FEELS like an eternity! Every month AF comes I debate just giving up. Giving up the control to God is the best decision though. This cycle, I stopped temping and OPKing and obsessing as much as i possibly could and have surrendered as much as I know how to God. It feels better. When AF shows at the end of this month, it will still be very painful...but I won't have invested as much into it ya know? Regardless, it's not in our hands, but never give up faith. PS aren't the pregnancy dreams weird? I always wonder if they mean anything and cling to them for hope! I just had one last night!

mrsb1029 · #9 February 6th, 2012, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by LindsG241

I'm SO right there with you right now. We are on our 6th month trying too and though in writing that doesn't seem like all that long, it FEELS like an eternity! Every month AF comes I debate just giving up. Giving up the control to God is the best decision though. This cycle, I stopped temping and OPKing and obsessing as much as i possibly could and have surrendered as much as I know how to God. It feels better. When AF shows at the end of this month, it will still be very painful...but I won't have invested as much into it ya know? Regardless, it's not in our hands, but never give up faith. PS aren't the pregnancy dreams weird? I always wonder if they mean anything and cling to them for hope! I just had one last night!

They are weird and I wish they meant more. I have had at least one pregnancy dream a month since November and I am sick of them because nothing is happening for me in that department.

I charted my BBT for about four months, then in December I quit BBT because it seemed pointless when we did the BD in our fertile window. I just started again this month and I'm just getting tired of the disappointment.