[sleepinangel]

OK, because I really don’t think I’m going to get preggo without some medical help, weather that be Clomid or more, I’m thinking ahead for my RE appointment next week.

DH and I are trying to decide if we want to take a break in March and April to avoid having a Christmas baby. The issue for us is our DS is a Christmas baby, born Dec 26th and we really have a hard time trying to decide if should have another child during that time a year. It’s already hard trying to make DS feel like his birthday is a special day just for him with all the Christmas celebrations going on. Plus the financial obligations that time of year will have on us and family members, it almost seems unfair to the potential baby….but I really can’t see three cycles of purposely not trying, especially with my age, something inside me is really telling me that I’m running out of time….ugh, don’t know what to do.

I do have this cycle, should be Oing in about 2 or 3 days and one O after the RE appointment (around Feb29) I’m praying that one of these cycles will bring a BFP, but if not then what?

Just thought I’d ask for some thoughts from you ladies. I know it’s a while from now, but want to let my RE know the decision when we go next week so taking the week to really think about it

[MommaHarvey]

How old is your son?

I also have a Christmas DS. He's 13mo right now and we are trying for #2. Being his 1st b-day this year was easy because he didn't really know what was going on anyway. But for the future I am thinking of doing what several friends with Christmas baby's do. On his birthday he gets a small present and a day to do something fun with mommy and daddy, then in the summer he gets his own day for a party and whatever he wants with his friends and what we will call either 1/2 b-day or unb-day gifts from us. That way he still gets to have the fun party with his friends without worrying if people will be around near the holidays, plus his own special day with us on his real b-day. Lots of friends say this works for them and makes their LO's feel extra special to have 2 days a year.

So if we end up with another Christmas baby I'm ok with that, but still FX for it happening sooner.

And FX for you too.

[lunar scallion]

I hear what you're saying. It's just my opinion but I made the decision to not worry about when their birthday is. Chances are the baby won't be born on the due date anyway. But even if they are I know plenty of people born around Christmas who are just fine. In the long run your love and the experiences you share are going to make a much bigger difference than relatives consolidating gifts. I'd be afraid I'd miss out on the baby in supposed to have.

All of that being said, whatever you chose the ladies here will be there for you!

[swtneka]

It's a personal decision but whatever u chose we will be here to back u up 100%. Gl

[muffin]

We actually plan on avoiding the cycle after this one for that exact reason! Yes, we're on our tenth cycle TTC, but I'm a Christmas baby, and I don't want our child to have that same fate. Not that anybody's decision to do otherwise is wrong, it's just our personal decision. And I have an appointment for a new RE referral tommorow, so I plan on telling him/her the same thing. If they don't like it, then they're probably not the right doctor for us, you know?

[LindsG241]

I'm in the same boat. I don't have a Christmas baby but my DS is Jan 18th which is about as close to Christmas as i'm comfortable with. I'm really up in the air. I was really curious what everyone else was thinking as well! When it comes down to it, when I start showing signs of ovulating during that month, I know I won't be able to tell my husband to use protection. I will still want to try - though maybe not try as hard! My mom asked me - would you rather a Christmas baby or no baby at all?

Here's hoping we all get pregnant this month or next and don't have to make this decision!

[sleepinangel]

Thanks for your thoughts ladies, hoping our BFP comes soon and this decision isn't needed!!

[Caerus]

My DH's birthday is 12/23, so I know what you mean here. We actually discussed this the other day, whether we should wait out a month or so to avoid a Christmas baby. We've decided not to, because the odds are against me getting pregnant and then having the due date be in late December anyway. That, and Hubby said that while there are downsides to having a Christmas birthday, he always says this his birthday is right smack in the middle of "the most wonderful time of the year" (and that that makes it extra-special).

Anyway, FXed that you won't have to decide that because you will already be pregnant!

[MommaHarvey]

I will say that a Christmas baby wasn't my first choice. DH and I had been TTC for 3yrs and had just had a MC. If I hadn't lost the first baby we would have been due in Sept not Dec. Of course I wouldn't change anything now that I have DS. We won't skip trying any this time mainly because I'm afraid of how long it might take this time. However I can defiantly see why others may wait a bit longer.

[KristyR]

It's totally up to you hun! My DH and I were talking about the same thing because our DS bday is in November...we gonna keep TTCing each month because it's taking us a bit.