A little discouraged

mrsb1029 · #1 February 11th, 2012, 01:34 PM

My DH is 30 and I am 24. We have been trying to have a baby since he turned 30 back in August. I am starting to get discouraged because I feel like it is never going to happen for us.

I chart my temps, don't drink alcohol or caffeine, eat fruits and veggies and I try to stay away from too many sweets. My DH on the other hand, who has told me he isn't getting any younger and wants a family, still drinks 4 or more sodas a day and no veggies. Plus, he admits to me he stresses over money and work all the time, so he doesn't have the energy to BD during the week. We are one of those couples who only does it like once a week.

At this point I am ready to give up TTC.

Hopolka · #2 February 11th, 2012, 02:56 PM

Hi MrsB. I feel your pain. Before TTC, DH and I had too busy of lives to put any thought into our BDing. This really frustrated me because we haven't been married that long (6 months) and this shouldn't be happening already. It wasn't the lack of BDing, it was general intimacy. So, I decided we needed to have a sit down and talk about whether or not we wanted to take TTC seriously and that even if we had to schedule, yes schedule, BD we would. Now only 2 months into TTC we've made a conscious effort to be more intimate. I hope things change for you and your DH. Just let him know how you feel and that expanding your family is important to you as I'm sure it will be to him also.

And today I had a small breakdown thinking "I must be doing something wrong" because I also eat fruits and veggies, exercise, don't smoke, and stay away from many sweets. DH is a lax eater but makes efforts. Maybe suggest DH cut back a soda or two and go on walks with you or something

. That way you're doing things together and it doesn't feel forced. GL! Baby Dust!!

MAS1313 · #3 February 11th, 2012, 03:48 PM

So at one time my DH and I have also had to schedule BDing. We made it mandatory every tues. and Sat. Then one other optional time during the week. I think sitting down and having a real heart to heart and come up with a plan together. Good luck!

mrsb1029 · #4 February 11th, 2012, 05:42 PM

We have only been married about 3 and a half months, not long at all.
DH and I have talked about the whole baby thing and said he is going to try because he really wants a family too and didn't realize how difficult it would be.

Thanks for the positive thoughts, ladies! GL and baby dust to you also!

caseya001 · #5 February 11th, 2012, 06:26 PM

My DH and I are 30.. and we've been Bding everynight for the past 3 nights. Then one day off, the the last two before the night off. And he is exhausted... I'm exhausted.. even when we are BDing not much intimacy, because we are tired.. We know if we don't do it now we'll be even more tired when we're older.. He's now complaining about not having energy as well..so frustrating...