[Kissthegirl]

Do you think it’s better to visualize you getting pregnant at the end of your cycle (to keep positive, with less stress), or to not get your hopes up (for fear you’ll be all torn up)??

I’ve heard both, so what do you girls think?

[Sawyers_Mommy]

For me it's easier to tell myself I'm not pregnant so that if I test and its negative I'm not dissapointed but if it's positive then I am even more suprised

[mamaquiltthief]

I can't help but visulise my self as pregnant (and imagining every symptom under the sun) But I then have a huge mood crash Bloody TTC rollercoaster

[dlammers]

I guess what I am thinking is that it would be great to get pregnant this cycle but if not there is always next month. I also don't want to be let down in the end but don't want to be negative about the situation either.

[Marie.sThrees]

I agree that sometimes it's better to just think you didn't get lucky. There were two times I SWORE that I was preggo. One time ended up negative and then the other was a CP. It was soooo dissapointing. I'm much more optimistic if I don't read in to things to much. When that stupid AF shows, I always have a moment of weakness, but just one. Then it's on to the next try!

[Ravado]

I try not to think about it but always fail. I think about how great it would be if I were but also have a list of why the next few months would be great as well. For instance, if I miss Dec DDC (which I want oh so bad) it would push me into Jan which is a new leave year so I would have more time off with the new baby, or if I got a baby girl the birthday would be closer to my DD so I can reuse a lot of her clothes, etc. I am still always disappointed with the BFNs but at least I have some positive thoughts already lined up to focus on too.

[LaceyMay2630]

I agree! Just take it one month at a time, I always go in thinking that I'm not. That way I'm not extremely disappointed if it's negative, but it's a nice surprise if it's positive!

[Kissthegirl]

I’m with you ladies; I always tell myself it’s not going to be my cycle so I don’t already get my hopes up & obsess over syms. And then, at the end, AF shows and I get down… but then new hope finds me about CD2 and I press on. But I’m SICK of doing that. I’m sick of trying to convince myself to not be siked that this could in fact be my cycle, when in the back of my head I am siked that it could be – all the time knowing the consequences of disappointment if I do get my hopes, but yet I say I’m not going to b/c maybe, JUST MAYBE that will make the difference if I do indeed get prego… and then I can be “surprised” if I am (Ooo, go me!), and not disappointed if I’m not.

OMG.

No wonder we’re all emotional. FRICK. We try to convince ourselves to not be excited or hopeful, when in fact we are TTC, so of course we’re going to be hopeful!!! And it's NEVER going to be like "oh surprise, you're prego!" b/c we're all timing, temping & BDing like bunnies to get prego. It’s this sick process WE ALL put ourselves through every month! And I don’t know about you girls, but after 15 months, I’m starting to feel TTC Schizo!

So, I’m done doing that.

This is my cycle, dang it. I will have faith in what’s unknown right now. I have faith that this is it! Who cares if it’s not it, I’m going to be hurt either way! So I refuse to think negative about this cycle! December DDC here I come!!

[Lucky Mama]

Good for you, Michelle! I'm the same way! I always try to convince myself that I'm not pregnant, even during cycles I think I might be, because I don't want to get a BFN and be crushed. But of course, it doesn't work and I'm crushed anyway. No matter how much I say to myself, "I'm not pregnant, I'm not pregnant, I'm not pregnant." in the back of my mind, I'm thinking, "This might be it! I could be pregnant!"

Why do I lie to myself and try to change my own mind, when it doesn't make a bit of difference? Maybe I'll think positively, too! Either way, it'll be the same result!

That settles it! I am going to allow myself to analyze symptoms and hope for a Decemeber, Sunny D baby! Thanks for the inspiration, Michelle!

[Nicholle ttc]

THIS IS YOUR CYCLE!!!! I have faith in you! Maybe the positive hopes and vibes will bring you your baby! GL and F/X'd for you!!!!

[Grace]

I actually do visualize or at least I did the cycle I got pg with Isaac, I visualized the entire thing from my egg growing to ovulation, the swimmers getting up there and creating a perfect embryo. I then visualized this perfect embryo implanting very deep in the the uterine lining and even imagined that it had fish hook type things that would not let it fall off of the uterus wall (no m/c). Once I got my bfp I visualized the hcg being like a white light the grew every day to show that the hcg was increasing, what is even more surprising was how high my hcg was and how quickly it climbed, I started out with 115 at 12 dpo and by 26 dpo it was 33,998.

For me it was a way of showing the Lord what I believed he was already doing within me.

I will say that I have not been visualizing this time around, I haven't even prayed for my own bfp yet, I pray when it's time it will happen and that's it for now. I think since we just started TTC I have plenty of time ahead of me, for now I pray for you all to get bfp's, maybe I will get a surprise one somewhere in between.

Oh and when I was doing this the cycle I got Isaac, I still thought I was out, until 9 dpo when I got my bfp. I wasn't losing my faith, I just did not feel pg.

[Lucky Mama]

Grace, you inspire me.

That is all.

[Kissthegirl]

Originally Posted by Grace

Oh and when I was doing this the cycle I got Isaac, I still thought I was out, until 9 dpo when I got my bfp. I wasn't losing my faith, I just did not feel pg.

That is very true! You can still feel like you're out, but yet have all faith still that the Lord will bless you.

[Grace]

Originally Posted by Lucky Mama

Grace, you inspire me.

That is all.

Aww How sweet

[Purple_cat]

Every month I imagine that I am pregnant. I even stalk that month's DDC. I browse maternity clothing and think about which seasons I will need it.

I'm not sure that is good for me, because each month when AF shows I am crushed. But I for now I will keep doing it because it gives me new hope every month.

[dri2011]

I do both to be honest....I really have that gut feeling that I had that m/c 2 weeks ago but for some reason I've been googling ultrasound pics to find one that looks like mine from yesterday.(the one with a jellybean in it) Thinking to myself "I coulda had twins and just lost one; yeah that's it. That's why I feel pregnant" why oh why do I put myself through this knowing that I feel O pains today?

Originally Posted by Lucky Mama

Grace, you inspire me.

That is all.

double

[ninja_mommy]

I tend to be on the opposite spectrum as you guys. I am more like Grace, I try to visual everything happening in a healthy way. Most 2WW I feel a lot of symptoms, most likely from the rise of progesterone. I am always crushed when AF shows. I have a really good cry and a drink a few days later I am ready to try again.
Although this cycle is different. I kind of don't even want to try. Not sure what's up with that though.

[AllThingsSunny]

I tend to be a positive person, so I usually get my hopes up. At the same time, I'm a realistic person....and know the odds, and I try not to get incredibly down if it hasn't happened.

[Aillidh]

I try not to get my hopes up but do inevitably...It's just the way I am. But I'm looking at DDC's and getting all excited, even as I'm telling myself not to get excited. Lol. It's a sick game we play with ourselves ladies

[MAS1313]

I try to not get my hopes up... Considering how my cycles are lately it is not to difficult. Thing is even on an annovulatory cycle I still thought maybe some sort of miracle happened