[captivate]

Well. We tried to bd but our old problem is back. Delayed ejaculation. Please don't laugh.

This means we can't and I think the stress of ttc is making him worse. He's always had the problem but I've never minded as he can last for ages.

So another thing against me to add to the twice a week most .bd.

So...........

[captivate]

Well seems it's something you all can't talk about. I suppose this was the wrong place to be honest.

Or do I post too much?

[muffin]

It's probably just not something somebody here can relate to!

2X a week would be an increase for us, so I can't really comment on that one

[linds2012]

Yeah i agree, its definately not that i dont want to talk about it, just not something i can relate to at all.

Originally Posted by muffin

It's probably just not something somebody here can relate to!

2X a week would be an increase for us, so I can't really comment on that one

[MAS1313]

I am not sure on this issue either. I do however know that the stress of TTC can cause some performance anxiety so it makes sense that the problem is worse. Anything you can do to help de-stress?

[captivate]

I can not mention etc as much. Maybe it won't put as much pressure on him. Dunno. I'll seek somewhere to discuss it.

[MAS1313]

I am sorry I am not more help

[CyndiBear]

I think most men have a problem with performance when they feel pressure to "finnish" when they are "supposed to" rather than when they want to. Somtimes when I know I'm Oing I set up something special and make it fun for DH....do things I usually don't want to or like lol But it makes it more exciting for him and if he's having fun and not thinking so much about TTC he can get into it and we don't usually have a problem. He knows because I'm usually so relaxed about our sex life so when I'm Oing he knows because I get all "hot and bothered" LOL! But even though he knows, there is not really any pressure, so we just have fun. Maybe that can help.

[Krisnina]

I heard that when I woman is ttc if she cums it can help get sperm into the cervix. I know that when I thought about it when I was BDing- I couldn't because I was trying so hard to do so. It can't be easy for our guys to keep BDing on demand.

[captivate]

I cum every time, multiple sometimes. We always have fun. I think it's the ttc that's taking the fun out of it. I'm just going to keep quiet and pee on my opks. If he asks I'll tell, if he don't I won't. X

[AK Mom]

I don't have any advice but I do wish you luck and send you positive thoughts and prayers.

[captivate]

Thanks hunni. X


Maybe it's a clash of the UK and the USA. I had this last ttc place I joined years ago. Lol.

I cum every time, multiple sometimes. We always have fun. I think it's the ttc that's taking the fun out of it. I'm just going to keep quiet and pee on my opks. If he asks I'll tell, if he don't I won't. X

[ThaiSpice]

Originally Posted by captivate

I cum every time, multiple sometimes. We always have fun. I think it's the ttc that's taking the fun out of it. I'm just going to keep quiet and pee on my opks. If he asks I'll tell, if he don't I won't. X

That sounds like a good plan!

[Scarlet Starlet]

I agree with the performance anxiety issue, maybe he's a little nervous and feeling pressured to perform. We ladies do everything we can to make it happen, but it's his precious swimmers that really have the final say. When guys know we're itching for children, they know it's up to them to make it happen, and that can be a lot of pressure for a guy. He probably knows how bad you want it and is putting a lot of stress on himself to make it happen.
Tell him you want to take a month off from ttc to relieve some of the pressure and see if that helps (still do your opks for your own knowledge though!)?

[Grace]

I agree with the others, sometimes the ttc can make a man feel pressure. I try to not talk a lot of ttc to dh, we just dtd and try to have fun with it. I have also noticed that if I say anything to him about finishing, it takes even longer. But I really don't like dtd to last forever, so I just try to spice it up so it's not the same thing all the time. I wish I had more advice.

[momto3brazils]

It's normal to get performance anxiety when TTC.
Don't feel like you have to seek advice somewhere else about it, I think it's great that you are a very active poster and that's a good thing. Heck by asking your question you may have helped someone who was too shy to ask the same question

[HopingForBabyNumber3]

Well, I have a similiar situation in a way. When we first started TTC, he would know when I was Oing because I'd tell him and wanna bd asap. He couldn't get hard. He said that it was to much pressure and he enjoyed the passion of sex and the spontaneity. So I don't tell him when I'm Oing lol. I just jump his bones at all different times so he has no idea when I have alterier motives! Even when I'm not Oing I lay down for awhile afterwards so he has no clue that I know I have little chance of getting pg 90% of the time. He does know that I chart and use OPKs but now he's started asking me not to so we can let nature take its course and let fate decide when we should have another baby. So now I'm doing that in hiding to. Terrible I know but hey I like knowing what's going on when! Good for you for being so open! I definitely do jot think you post to much! I enjoy your insight, and wisdom. I also hate when your hurting. So you keep being you! Don't ever feel like you can't be open and honest. If girls can't handle it then they can not read it, but me personally I love your posts!

[LPNMOMMY84]

Im a pretty open person so it doesnt bother me! Lol lately ive been so hot for Shawn and he seems "off", just not as into it. I know its not the TTc thing though. Random, I had an ex boyfriend who had the delayed ejaculation issue. We were not TTc but I noticed thhat when it happpened if I was just patient and changed things up a bit and if worse came to worse took a lil break and started again, we would be successful in making him cum. I hope that helps.

[captivate]

Thanks girls.

With us, it's not change that helps. He had a accident when you've and it stopped some feeling down there so there are only 2 things that he can feel so bringing something new into it wouldn't work. Sex used to be all about me as his pleasure was giving me and if he came a bonus.

He has no clue when I o, we can only have sex Thursday afternoon and Sunday afternoon.

He wants me to cook and temp, it was his idea to do it vaginally.

I bought a new fan as it's muggy here at the moment and he's a big lad and sweating puts him off so I'll jump him later if we get back from a meeting Ray enough.

Love you guys x

[captivate]

Well didn't get the time after meeting. Hopefully Sunday.....