[captivate]

I lost my baby 2.5 weeks ago and I've been accused of being obsessed already. He doesn't get why I needed to know my lp. Why I'm peeing on sticks and why I'm going to chart vaginal. I temp oral in secret.

........ anyone else like me.

[RoxanneMI]

oh I know I am obsessed but I think hubby can be too. He helps me wake up to temp early and wants to know what the temp is doing. Anytime I learn about something that might help, I am telling him about it, like preseed, pineapple core, baby asprin, etc. He likes to do research and see what we can find out about all these things( so far we love preseed!!) When doc just keeps sending me for preg tests even when no chance at all that I could be preg, he gets upset and wants her to just move on already. At least I been blessed with someone that is obsessed just like me!

[captivate]

he's obsessed, he's just obsessed naturally. That's how we got preg with the baby that we lost. He just doesn't understand why I need to keep track.

I think I'd be wierded out out he was really into it. X

[RoxanneMI]

I love it that he is into this, but he had struggles with his first wife and had a loss then too. Its nice knowing he wants this as much as I do

[captivate]

Yeah. I had Tony crying his eyes out last night over missing the baby and losing it but he said he doesn't want ttc to take over our life as a couple as we never planned but we want. He's an amazing man and if j found I'm still broken I'll live with it if there is nothing I can do about it. But I don't know so I'm ttc to I the max. X

[captivate]

Well today he told me honestly that he thinks I am already becoming obsessed with charting my cycle.

I told him its only really for 3 consecutive cycles so I can see if I am still broken.

So anything to do with TTC is now strictly between me and you ladies on my phone or pc screen lol.

[MAS1313]

I have been told this as well, but it is so hard not to be. ESP when I HAVE to keep track when taking Clomid... Everything has to be done on such specific days.

[LPNMOMMY84]

my husband used to be like that and still is in a way. I think its their way of dealing sometimes. Like if they dont get way into it, then it won't hurt as much... Does that make sense?

[simplesue]

It is tough to NOT obsess. Especially after a loss and during medicated cycles. I've been trying for 7 years and been through 4 losses (but we were successful this last try!!! 26+ weeks now) I just wanted to encourage you to be as obsessive as you want! There is nothing wrong with it and use this forum to vent your obsessiveness LOL. My dh really became detached in the end. I'd obsess and POAS starting right after O'ing and see all sorts of "lines" that he couldn't. He would enjoy seeing my charts but ultimately he feared MY disappointment and more loss. Men really don't feel loss and TTC the same as women. I found tons of comfort in my TTC obsessed friends. When I finally had a positive test this last round, my dh just shrugged his shoulders at the test as if "been here, done this, we will wait and see" it wasn't until the ultrasound that he truly felt we were pregnant. It was disappointing, but totally understandable. I only wish I had his self control

Wow sorry to be so wordy. New here...finding my way around and looking forward to getting to know everyone!

Good luck to you! I'll keep watching for you updates and am here to encourage you (((hugs)))

[captivate]

Thanks ladies. Love you all so much.

He is the type who doesn't want be to hurt and he hurts when I do. I can obsess in secret hehe. Xxx

I've got you ladies. Xxx

[LPNMOMMY84]

That you do! We love you and are here. Losing a baby is something that no one can tell you how you should personally process... ((HUGS))

[Grace]

I think it's hard to not become obsessed with something you really want, I became really bad about it when ttc Isaac. After our first loss I actually became scared to ttc and even went to my ob for B/C. I ended up ttc again anyways and then we had our second loss but that one just made me even more eager to try again. Mainly because my OB told me about a possible progesterone issue and my RE put me on prometrium so then I felt more confident. Then I really had to keep up with O and opks so I knew when to take my meds.

Now we are TTC again, our 6th cycle. I admit we haven't been trying really hard this last 6 cycles but we had an agreement from the start that we would not turn it into a job. It really did affect our marriage last time and dtd was just that...DTD, there was no more intimacy in it. Now every cycle we look forward to dtd as we take out the baby making part, and use as a time for us and it becomes very romantic and exciting. Of course every cycle that I get a bfn I take the time out to cry secretly, then I move on. I know dh knows it hurts me, but it's not in my hands and something I can't control, it will happen when it's time. We also had a loss last month and that was really hard as I never thought we would have another loss since we were taking prometrium, but we did.

Dh knows that I have to chart and keep up with my cycles to know when to take prometrium. But he also knows that I would rather not chart and just wait for af to be late, but I can't because of my progesterone issue. I do however keep most of my charting stuff to myself, I do not use opks any longer either, in fact the cycle I stopped using them is the cycle I got pg....odd lol. I will show him dips and such every now and then, but for the most part I don't tell him much, not even when I am fertile. I think he figures that out on his own anyway, but I just don't want this time to be like last time. I want the entire process to be enjoyable. We have agreed though that if we are not pg in another 6 months, we will see what we need to do from there, or if I have another loss, then will go to my new RE that same month.


Hope you get your bfp very soon!

[lelila]

Having a second child was my DH's idea. And I get called obsessed every time we talk about it. Mind you, he wants to do this the old fashioned way - just BD whenever we feel like it and hope we get lucky. I told him I don't want to do it that way, I'm almost 40, I want to be a little more proactive.

[FishermansWife4]

Around here, we're all ttc obsessed. No worries, you fit in well here

[captivate]

yeah I think because our loss was a surprise pregnancy then we can do the same. There is A big but.he's not getting any younger and I have a lp issue. I'd like to know if I still do.

We can't bd when we want. Life's just too hectic with us only being together Thursday through till Sunday.

I just want to know. I don't want to have sex on the command of a chart. X