[captivate]

Just got a call from the early pregnancy unit to say the 6 months since losing the baby has gone and I am no longer under there care. They asked if I had any more questions and I said no. I'm actively ttc now.

Guess what she said.

You don't need to try.
It happened when you didn't try so it will happen again in no time I'm sure.

I had to bite my tongue.

She knows because she was the counsellor discussing my options as I was so late. She knew I was ttc my dd for over 2 years and she's knows I've been ttc2 on and off since dd.

JUST BECAUSE IT HAPPENED DOESN'T MEAN I WON'T HAVE TO WAIT AGAIN.

I don't understand why they can't use common sense with the math.

[Mary N Oscar]

I think "the professionals" think telling us things like this will perk our spirits up. But they arent the ones dealing with ttc on a daily basis amd dealing with the stresses that come with it. It is VERY HARD TTC. Good luck. i really hope you get your BFP soon. You deserve it. You are a great person.

[captivate]

Thanks Mary and yes I believe they do it to make us feel better. Maybe it's because personally I hate giving false hope so when I'm given it is annoying lol.

[MarchMom2007]

Ugh, I would want to scream at someone like that. Keep on keeping on, Clare. I have a very good feeling about this month for many of us. Your chart looks fantastic so far!

[captivate]

hahaha. That's so funny. This month is not my month.

You much against it. Also what's the odds of having 2 babies with the same edd. Ff told me if I conceive this cycle my edd would be 5th may. Serenity first ever edd was the 5th may.

I have a good feeling were going to have lots of bfp in ten and under days.

[Skimboardin Mama]

Imagine hearing this immeadiately after being told you're miscarrying... "Don't worry. It was just your first. You guys are young. It will happen again"

*** why in the hell would a doctor think that's comforting. Just keep your mouth shut. We were "young" 25 and 27 at the time but we still planned for it, still loved it, and were still hurt.

[Diamond2009]

Some people dont think before they speak. I always get oh you are still young....ummm no i'm not i'm 32 but thanks gRRRR. I pray this is your cycle Clare

[mamaquiltthief]

Argh How upsetting for you to hear You'd think they would be more sympathetic Hope this is your cycle!

[captivate]

Yeah the nurse when I was refused my smear.

Sorry you just your baby, I know you wanted This for 7 years, at least you know you can get pregnant your only 32.

People forget Tony is 48....

[mommy_to_nico]

i'll keep u in our prayers

[Babybear4]

Wow, how insensitive!

[Oilfield_Wife]

some people just need to think about what they are saying before they say it.

[WorkerBeeMama]

That is annoying.

When I had my MC the woman told me that it wasn't meant to be and that something would have been wrong with the baby most likely and that this is natures way of preventing that - or something to that effect.

I was so mad because that didn't mean that it hurt any less. Nature can be cruel sometimes. I guess in a strange way it did help me some though. I think though when people are in that type of situation they just want a hug and an "I'm so sorry" and nothing more.

[captivate]

Omg, I hate that too.

Do you know how many times I heard that.

There must have been something genetically wrong.

At least it was a missed miscarriage and your body wanted it.

Your chemicals were not meant to be babies.

I DON'T CARE. I SHOULD HAVE BEEN PREGNANT WITH A HEALTHY BABY. Ffs.

It doesn't help me knowing my babies was formed wrong.... it shouldn't have been me, I did everything right......

Saying it wasn't meant to be won't ever help.