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I almost feel guilty for even being sad…. considering some of you have been trying for SO much longer, it makes me feel selfish.
But I can't help but be sad.
I was pregnant, I knew it. Our first month trying and it happened…… and now its gone. It makes me so sad I've never gone through this before……. I respect all of you ladies who try every month. It's hard… I'm hoping I'm ready to try again this month.
Honestly, it doesn't matter if you have been trying a month, 2, 6, 18, 24, or 36. Every disappointing BFN, every chemical, every loss is just as sad. When you want something so much, as we all want a baby, its impossible to avoid the sadness. Don't let yourself feel guilty about being upset because it only makes it harder to deal with. I don't know any of these ladies that will disagree with me because most of us have been there or will be there. This is the most trying journey we will ever have to go through.
You grieve for what you have lost. Take the time of your AF to get all the sadness out so there is room for hope to reblossom and you can start next month with an almost clean slate. You will never forget your chemical but you have the chance to move forward and try for a baby that you can bring home in your arms.
Thank you ladies so much. Your kind words are incredibly reassuring to me. I definitely know when the timing is right, we will get our sticky little bean and it will be amazing. If anything, this has helped bring me back down to reality & hopefully this month I can just be normal and not obsess over everything. Had I held off to test until AF was due (Feb 8th) I would have never even know and I would have just thought she showed up early. I'm so thankful for all of you - it means a lot to have a group of ladies to talk to who actually understand.
I am so sorry for your loss!!! A loss is still a loss regardless of how long you have been TTC. But like someone else said,at least now you know you can get pregnant, Once again I am so sorry for your loss. Hoping and praying that you don't have to hang around here much longer because you will get preggo with your rainbow baby soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
As someone who has been trying for a long while I must tell you that you have every right to be upset, disappointed and sad!!! You had a loss!! It's NOT FAIR! And just because you haven't tried long doesn't mean it was less of a loss.
I am so sorry
I agree with everyone else, it doesn't matter how long you've been trying you've got every right to be sad. It's heartbreaking when it happens...we had a loss early on in Nov and its impossible to not let it effect you. Good news is everything works so keep trying and it will happen