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Hi all. I'm new around here. My husband and I started trying in February and I just got my period (6 days late) this month so I'm getting tired of seeing AF! Anyone have any good tips? I don't drink, smoke and I'm trying to limit my caffeine intake to only about 80 mg a day. I've been charting my temp for the first time this month. Just wondering if I'm missing anything.. I am looking forward to having this support group as I'm getting frustrated.
You are doing just about everything right! Try not to overwhelm yourself with having to do everything. Keep doing what you are doing and maybe next month try something new. Its takes even the healthiest couples in the best circumstances around 6 months to conceive. So don't get too discourages yet.
I am sorry darling, I will copy and paste something I said to another girl a few minutes ago, who was as frustrated as you:Sorry hun, don't get discouraged. We have been trying since end of January for our first and nothing so far. Others here have been trying for several years. People go on and on about contraception when you are at school and how you can get pregnant but reality is, it is not that easy. Every cycle that you try, if you do it at the right time and you are both super healhty then your chances of pregnancy are 25% only. So it is really a miracle and it doesnt happen easily. AF came for me on Sunday and I have been very depressed since. I just couldn't and still can not understand how someone my age has not conceived yet after 3 months of unprotected intercourse. And then you see other girls, going out for one night and getting pregnant by accident and it can make you think how unfair life can be. Doctors do say though that a healthy couple can take about 6 months on average to conceive! :-) Good luck and don't lose hope.
Thanks to you both. It is crazy how our society really emphasizes that pregnancy can happen the FIRST time you go unprotected (which I know it can) but when you are ready and you want it to just happen, it doesn't. over and over... Going to keep on truckin'!
It's so true! We've also been trying actively since January. We're both healthy- I've never smoked, don't drink alcohol except very occasionally, don't drink caffeine, and I exercise 5 days per week. It can get frustrating when I know so many people that are pregnant and didn't have to do things like take OPKs and temp. But a few months ago I decided that stressing and getting depressed about it is certainly not going to help us. I believe that when the time is right for us it will happen.
The other ladies are right, it can take healthy couples at least 6 months.
I will say that this cycle when AF is finished we're going to BD a lot more during my whole cycle We've only been doing it around O time.
So just try to stay positive, and keep BD'ing this is a great place to come for support, everybody is so helpful!