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I'm really scared that I'll never have a baby. First of all, I'm already 33 years old. And my husband doesn't pay any attention to the calendar I keep to track my monthly cycles, I call it my screw calendar. I use the advice of a good friend of mine and the website mymonthlycycles to make it. Dh won't have sex with me on the days that I need to have semen to have a baby. We have pretty good sex sometimes but not on those days, he just lets them go by without concern month by month . I don't want to start another fight with him but God I'm upset. So I wondered if there were any ladies on this site in the same boat that I am in and look for advice.
Could he be feeling pressured to perform on those days? I know a lot of DHs on here prefer to be kept in the dark on the important days. I would honestly keep track of it myself and, unless DH asked, jump him randomly throughout and get out the lingerie or something if he needs some extra encouragement on certain days .
Well first stop telling him when you are fertile because some men get turned off by having sex to make a baby or if he is nervous about becoming a father he might chicken out last minute. Second try to have sex with him several times a week every week and not just when you are fertile. some men hate feeling like you only want sex for his sperm. if you only try to have sex with him a lot when your fertile and during other times he will soon catch on. show him that you desire sex with him all the time. men love when you want sex with them. they hate when all you care about is their sperm. my DH hates hearing about charts, calendars, ovulation tests, CM... not sexy. your not alone. when it comes to men and TTC sometimes the less they know the better.
I know how disappointing it is not to have your DH not excited about TTC as you are. I am in the same position. I tried to tell my DH how much it meant to me to have him be excited also and we had plenty of fights. In the end I just had to accept that he won't be as into it as me and try to not let it ruin the fun for me. That is what these boards are for, to talk about all the things you would not have anyone else to talk to about. Some men do not show excitement until your pregnant and still other men not until the baby is born. So I guess we just have to take our men how they are and love them anyways. I hope you will be able to work it out with him and have a good experience.