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So a little more about me. DH and I have a DD who'll be 13 months on the 11th. We conceived her in less than 2 months last year with a combo of temping (incorrectly), watching CM, and charting. I found myself stressing the entire time. Information/responsibility overload.
Any pointers this time around? I think my POA (plan of action) is to chart but this time only keep track of the following through FF:
This way, I'll be able to see my window of opportunity but maybe not feel overwhelmed by missing a morning temp or potentially wasting an OPK. Idk, thoughts?
I get overwhelmed with temping as well. I told myself I wouldn't resort to that unless we got to a certain point and it wasn't working with just OPK's & charting. I did end up buying a basal thermometer, but I've been horrible about using it! So, for now, I'm back to just using OPK's and my little app on my phone.
I usually start doing OPK's around CD9 and continue through until I get a positive and it goes back to negative. Thats helped, but obviously doesn't confirm O. For me, my biggest struggle is getting my cycles back to "normal" after going back on the pill after a MC.
Hopefully you dont have too many wonky cycles after you stop your BC, and you can get into a good pattern! I think your plan sounds good- try to stay as low stress as you can..... easier said than done, I know!
I would also recommending checking CP. I know I get patches of EWCM after I know I O'd and long before I do. When I first started tracking I was checking my CM and CP at the same time every day and got a pretty good idea of when I was Oing.
I have been overly stressed and I would say it's because this is our 5th cycle and I am 100% positive I am out this cycle. I temp and do OPK's and watch for cm but I think it is frustrating no matter what. Good luck
I think that's a good plan. I don't tempt, I tried it one cycle & it got me too frustrated, so I just check CM & pay attention to my sex drive & nipple sensitivity. Oh, and pain on the ovary I'm O'ing from. Those are all sure signs for me. Good luck!!!!
Last time I got pregnant, I was lax about my "fertile" window and went based off when my period was and a 28 day cycle. It took me 6 months.
I am with a different partner and I thought this time I'd try temping (6dpo in our first cycle) and I took my first temp this morning. I also bought some pre-seed. Can't hurt! If temping gets too annoying or stressful, I might stop for a while and see how our luck runs. I will definitely be paying way more attention to my CM as well.
I don't really want to spend the money on OPK's, so I won't resort to that until later if need be (hopefully not!)
Thanks for all the feedback. It's useful to hear it from other people's perspectives too. Even though I tell myself we're not "actively" trying yet but simply NTNP. Let's be honest...I'm pretty excited to be potentially PG again within the next 6 months.
I get overwhelmed by charted CM because it's so open to interpretation and... ugh, well just thinking about how it used to stress me out stresses me out haha. I do temping and OPKs, if I were you not wanting to temp I would just use OPKs
I'm actually MORE stressed if I'm NOT temping! I'm like oh my gosh! Did I ovulate? Did I not? how many DPO am I? I'm late for my period! and on and on and on.
With temping, I know that I ovulated, I can be worry free about missing it and I know when to test
I do also do OPK's and I watch CM and CP. My CM is erratic so I can't base solely off of that. Like today I had creamy, sticky AND EWCM!! If I wasn't temping and using OPK's I wouldn't have known that the dominant one is EWCM