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well so this cycle I decided I wasnt going to temp or worry, and that we would just try to DTD every other day (or close enough) during the two middle weeks of my cycle. DH is back to working nights this month so that means waking up at like 1am to DTD. we have been on track but then last night DH woke me up and we were getting into it but then he... couldnt... perform. and i know that it happens and i get why... Im not mad. But Im just worried that Im going to O today or tomorrow and then we wont have had sex since Monday! thats way too many days in between If I O later friday or any of the days after (sat, sun, mon, tues), we will be fine. yesterday I thought I had a little bit of CM that *could* have been maybe EWCM, but I am not really sure. I rarely get any, so I dont really use it as an indicator. If I O'd yesterday that would be at CD 10 and really early - but having DTD on monday, we would be reasonably covered. Im just hoping so hard that I don't O today and that it holds off till friday PM or later! PLEASE!
someone just talk me down, tell me itll be fine or something! Im trying to not overthink it but failing pretty miserably!!
If you're not one who tends to O super early I think you should still be fine. CD10 would be a very early O. Have you had O that early in past cycles? I bet you guys will be fine as long as you BD as soon as you are able.
the earliest I think was CD 12, last cycle. but usually im more around CD 14 or 15. the thing is, i dont know if ill be able to wake up tonight, since I hardly got any sleep last night (i couldnt fall asleep after our failed attempt), and Im not sure he would want to repeat it after last night. plus he will have to work super early friday morning (overtime), so as it is, he will only be getting a few hours sleep. so Friday afternoon is probably the earliest we will be able to dtd again.....
I tell my DF all the time that everything happens for a reason. If it is meant to be this month, it will be. This exact situation has happened to me before, and I know how frustrating it can be. But I try to remind myself that I am simply trying to make God's job a little easier, and let him handle the "when" and "how" of things. Good luck, and hope you get your BD in soon!
Well, if you usually ovualte cd 14/15, I'd say you're fine....but keep checking your signs so you don't miss it. Is there any way you can just have a quickie even though he's going to be tired just to make sure you got your bases covered this month? I know its so hard not obsessing...I'm sure everything will work out, hun, hang in there!
thanks girls! I told him that i hoped he wasnt worrying/feeling bad about it and told him we could just dtd tonight or tomorrow and he said he would wake me up tonight to try again i just hope it works this time! lol! it is sooo hard not obsessing! he did tell me that he felt like he let me down i hate that he feels that!
update: we were able to dtd last night, so yay! I know you all were waiting to find that out LOL! I am having some mild pains off and on this morning that could be O starting, but not sure yet. Im just so glad it didnt happen yesterday! yay!