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April 21st, 2014, 12:34 PM
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April 22nd, 2014, 04:03 PM
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So very sorry!! ((((((HUGS))))))
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April 22nd, 2014, 04:20 PM
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Oh I am so sorry!!!!Please post an update!

Me(32), DH (31), DD (9)
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April 23rd, 2014, 07:22 AM
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Hugs hunny any news?

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April 23rd, 2014, 07:14 PM
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They are pretty sure that I lost the baby on April 2 when I had that bad "period." I didn't know it was a mc at the time but I remember thinking it was a super weird AF. It was longer (8 days) and I am still spotting at 22 days after. But it was also really (TMI) jelly like and kind of mucousy... does that sound like a mc to you that have experienced an early one?

I've still been charting because I didn't know I was even pregnant until the 16th and FF says I O'ed. Are temps and charts reliable when you still have HCG in your system? If FF is right, we tried this month without knowing that I'd just miscarried.

I expect AF any minute now. While it is really sad, I kinda want her to show because then it will help me to think that I won't need a D&C and will give me some hope that my body is getting back on track.

For those that have had mc, how long did your doctor tell you to wait to try again. I've seen everything under the sun from no need to wait at all to up to 6 months! My doctor said about 6 weeks after the miscarriage but I think as soon as AF shows, we will start trying again.

Thank you all for checking on me. It means a lot.

Me: 33 DH: 36 DS: 3 TTC #2 since May 2013
BFP: 4/19/14 Miscarried at 6 weeks April 2014
BFP: 5/24/15 Miscarried at 4 weeks May 2015BFP: 10/15/15, Beta #1: 31, Beta #2: 98, Beta #3: 139, Beta #4: 156

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April 23rd, 2014, 07:57 PM
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so sorry! I had a missed miscarriage many years ago. My body never responded and I had a d&c. I don't remember what the doc said about waiting, but we were there pregnant that next cycle after af came back. I guess some say the d&c wipes the slate clean and gives you a fresh start for a new baby. not sure how true that is, but our ds is now 6. Hugs!

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April 25th, 2014, 05:21 AM
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Lurking I'm sorry for your loss I've gone through many miscarriages soi know how hard it is but as time passes it gets a lil easier and I'd wait at least a cycle ..good luck dear!
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April 25th, 2014, 07:01 AM
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Did you have another beta draw? If you lost a baby on April 2, I don't see how your tests would still be progressively getting darker almost two weeks later. I would request another draw. Good luck.
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April 25th, 2014, 01:22 PM
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When I had a chemical a few years ago I got a bright positive test and 2 days later started my "period" went to the doctor they did a urine and blood test both were negative and so I did an FRER at home the same day and it was def negative... So maybe there is still some hope for you.
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April 26th, 2014, 09:37 AM
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It does look darker. I hope you get a great beta number when you go in.
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April 26th, 2014, 07:09 PM
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It's all very weird. On April 2, I had a VERY long, heavy period and temps dropped to pre-O temps. Flow lasted 8 days. On April 9, I started taking ovulation tests and they were positive starting then and for 8 days after. I thought something was wrong so I took a pregnancy test. Positive. But I had JUST had that period starting 14 days before which I was still spotting from (actually I spotted until after the period ended until this one started). First beta draw was on 4/16 and was 359. Second beta was on 4/18 and was 129. My pregnancy tests never really got darker. They all stayed about the same until I got that one random dark one which was after the beta draw so I know my numbers were dropping. I think the test just had more dye or something. Since that day, they have faded to negative. Per FF, I O'ed this cycle on 4/13 and I started my AF on 4/24, right on time... This AF was painful at first and heavy but now is quite normal and actually almost gone after only 3 days.

Sooooo, I don't really know if I miscarried on 4/2 or on 4/24 but either way, I did. It sucks not knowing. I'm pretty much a medical mystery. Because I never missed a period and they all came right on time, I have no idea how far along I was or when I miscarried. Had it not been for the positive ovulation tests being dark for so long, I'd have never tested and never even known I was pregnant.

Part of me thinks I miscarried on 4/2 because that period was so long, heavy and just weird as far as consitancy. But the other part thinks I lost the baby around the time they drew the betas because I don't know how I would still have positive tests for that long after. And they've also told me it is possible that it was twins and I miscarried one on 4/2 (the reason for the "period") and the other on 4/24 (the reason for the tests staying positive and the second "period") Truth is, I'll never know. I wasn't far enough along for an ultrasound and they are really guessing. All they know is I was pregnant and now I am not.

Last Sunday was a hard day. It really hit me what happened and I had a hard time functioning. Since then, I've accepted it. I'm still sad. I still miss my baby. I still wish I was pregnant, but there isn't anything I can do to change it. I'm trying to find the positive in all this. #1. I DID get pregnant on my own. And I can do it again. #2. I didn't have to have a D&C. I know a lot of people who have had them and said they weren't bad but I was scared. #3. No one should ever have a miscarriage. They suck. But if it had to happen, I am glad I was early. I think it would have been much harder the further a long that I got.

Anyway, sorry for the novel. And thank you for the support. As we begin to try again, I will try and be more active on the board. I was really active here when we were trying to conceive my son and I made some great friends here. I hope to make some more.

Oh, I also got another beta draw on Thursday but don't know the results yet (their office was closed Friday so I imagine they will call Monday). My pregnancy test was negative on Thursday so I imagine it is nearing 0.

Me: 33 DH: 36 DS: 3 TTC #2 since May 2013
BFP: 4/19/14 Miscarried at 6 weeks April 2014
BFP: 5/24/15 Miscarried at 4 weeks May 2015BFP: 10/15/15, Beta #1: 31, Beta #2: 98, Beta #3: 139, Beta #4: 156

My chart: My Ovulation Chart
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April 26th, 2014, 07:59 PM
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so sorry hun! Miscarriages do suck. Take the time you need to heal. Hugs!

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