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July 8th, 2005, 02:42 PM
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No big push, just wanted to mention the idea.

If it strikes a chord, think about joining us at the Adoption Board and we can help you explore the possiblities.

The best of luck to you, whichever road you take to parenthood!!
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July 8th, 2005, 03:47 PM
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If we could afford it I might but I know it cost a lot of money to do it that way. If we can't have one I guess we will be happy with the ONE that I have.
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July 8th, 2005, 04:15 PM
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We've kind of looked at this time ttc'ing like, if it happens, great, if not, we already have a great family and will stop at 2. If we couldn't have our own, we would definitely look into adoption. My cousin and dh's brother are adopted
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July 8th, 2005, 04:37 PM
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Yes we would consider to adopt. Even though we are blessed with Austin I feel that our family would be even more blessed with another child.
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July 8th, 2005, 04:41 PM
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I don't understand why adopting has to be so expensive. There are so many children looking for great homes and more people would be willing to take in these children if it didn't bankrupt them in the process. It just doesn't seem right to me. And it certainly isn't fair to the children.
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July 8th, 2005, 05:00 PM
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Originally posted by autumnsun@Jul 8 2005, 07:41 PM
I don't understand why adopting has to be so expensive. There are so many children looking for great homes and more people would be willing to take in these children if it didn't bankrupt them in the process. It just doesn't seem right to me. And it certainly isn't fair to the children.
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I'm not sure about domestic adoption. But when we adopted Brian from Korea, we got an itemized list of expenses. Some of it was fees, but a good part of it was his airfare over to JFK and the money paid to his foster mother for his upkeep from birth until he traveled at 7 months.
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July 8th, 2005, 05:14 PM
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May I ask about how much that was? Or is that too personal?
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July 8th, 2005, 05:33 PM
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Well I know a woman that adopted from germany and it was over $20,000 she told me that she would not adopt from the states bacause the birth parents have a while to be able to change their minds and take the baby back I could NOT deal with that!
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July 9th, 2005, 04:22 AM
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Originally posted by autumnsun@Jul 8 2005, 08:14 PM
May I ask about how much that was? Or is that too personal?*
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No, it's not too personal at all-- in fact, the prices are listed on the website of our agency: (www.new-beginnings.org)

7 years ago, a Korean Adoption cost us $18,000. I think that now it's up to $22,000. And you're right in taking a deep breath and thinking that it's a HUGE amount of money.

But we took out a loan and paid it off, just as we would have if we had needed a new roof or a new car. That's how we rationalized it, and it was worth every cent for us.
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July 9th, 2005, 04:24 AM
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Originally posted by Blue Eyes 409@Jul 8 2005, 08:33 PM
Well I know a woman that adopted from germany and it was over $20,000 she told me that she would not adopt from the states bacause the birth parents have a while to be able to change their minds and take the baby back I could NOT deal with that!
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Honestly, that's one of the things that started us looking at international too. But the laws vary from one state to the next. And I think, that for most, the waiting period is a really small window-- a week or two. I think it happens sooooo rarely.
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July 9th, 2005, 06:44 AM
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DH doesn't believe in using anything like IVF, or Clomid to Conceive. He thinks it'll all happen in God's time or that we are meant to adopt. So, if I don't get PG in the next few years I think we will seriously consider it.
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July 9th, 2005, 10:46 AM
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No, it is not a consideration for me. DH has no problem with adopting. He and all his siblings are adopted.
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July 9th, 2005, 10:53 AM
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I consider adoption, or anything else such has IVF. But I cant afford any of those things. God knows my situation, he knows the only way we can have kids is naturally. So if its meant for me to have a baby I will. If not naturally, then he will provide me the money someway to adopt a child. I've prayed about this numerous times.

I think is awful that adoption is so expensive.
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