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  #1  
August 11th, 2005, 06:47 AM
diane66
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I was thinking about this....Although I love both of my parents, and had a very happy childhood, there are some things I wished they had done differently with my upbringing...They were very young and nobody's perfect, so I'm not picking on them...

I hope to teach my children the importance of saving money. Not to spend your money on just anything...I was never taught that, and struggle with it today. (thank god DH is a saver!)

Also, my mother never curbed my appetite! I would eat all day! I would come home from school and make a bag of french fries, then eat dinner 2 hours later, and eat before bed and she never said anything..I wouldn't let my child do that!!

Pretty small things, I know, but planning to be a parent has made me think all sorts of things...

Please share yours if you'd like!
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August 11th, 2005, 07:31 AM
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If i raise my children half as well as my parents raised me and my two brothers, i'll be doing alright!

Sure, there are a few small things that i think hmmm...maybe i wouldnt be this way if....

But for the most part - they were perfect parents!
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August 11th, 2005, 07:33 AM
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I agree with your take on things Diane - my parents were great, but things have changed and there are definitely things that we won't do with our children that they did with us...like can you say no standing up on the seat in the truck when we're going down the highway!!!

I won't force my children to eat - if they're not hungry, as long as they are healthy, they don't have to eat when they don't want. That said, they would still have to eat all their veggies first if they wanted anything else.

There's probably a whole list, but that's the first thing that came to mind!
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August 11th, 2005, 07:59 AM
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i will definately do things diffrent with my kids.

when i was a kid i never could speak my mind so i kind of bottled everything up. i think kids need to let that anger out. i was so angry for a long time.

i will not make my kids go to bed so early. i'm serious. i was 12 and had to go to bed at 8:00.

i will not spank my kids. ever.

i will be open to my kids. i was never able to say anything. i never could tell my parents anything. i want my kids to be able to talk to me.

there is alot of things that happened that i was so angry for for along time. i remember saying when i was 9 years old to myself that i would never raise my kids like that. and so far i have been doing a good job.
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August 11th, 2005, 08:01 AM
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Originally posted by Jacquie@Aug 11 2005, 09:33 AM
I agree with your take on things Diane - my parents were great, but things have changed and there are definitely things that we won't do with our children that they did with us...like can you say no standing up on the seat in the truck when we're going down the highway!!!

I won't force my children to eat - if they're not hungry, as long as they are healthy, they don't have to eat when they don't want.* That said, they would still have to eat all their veggies first if they wanted anything else.

There's probably a whole list, but that's the first thing that came to mind!
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you're right! we never even wore seatbelts!!
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August 11th, 2005, 08:08 AM
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I will do things different and have been doing things different with my kids. I know that no one is perfect and that hind site is 20/20. My parents would give me whatever I wanted, however they would take it away just as fast. If I would make them made, they would take things away from me...if I didn't let them control every aspect of my life then they would take things away from me. They did this up until the day I got married last year to my DH.

The house I lived in was in their name, because I didn't have credit when I first bought it for it to go in my name..eventhough I paid the house payment they controlled everything about it.

When I was in my senior year of high school they bought me a new car, because they wanted to and ended up taking it away about midyear because I made them mad. They took my route to school and back home and to the community college that I took night classes at and check my miles every day. If I went 2 miles over what they had done while driving my route, that was it.

I will trust and do trust my children until they give me a reason not too, at that time if they lose they trust, they are required to earn it again.

I also will and do teach them to spend money wisely and not just spend to be spending. This was something I was never taught and I still struggle with this. DH has helped me alot in this area.

I will not and do not make my children set at the kitchen table from the time they get home from school until the time they go to bed if they make a C on their report card.

I will not allow my daughters at the age of 15 go on dates with guys

I will not and do not call my children names and belittle them.

I will not and do not make my children pick between parents

I will not and do not tell my children that they don't love me if they want to stay at a friends house over night.

I always cook healthy meals for my kids. I hate meals like hamburger helper and things like that..I grew up on those and feel guilty at times
when I have to cook them.

Oh the list can go on and on
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