[Kris1001]

My lil sis and I both think we're pregnant. Weird. I posted my situation about 2 weeks ago, now I'm going to post hers.


She is 14 and she lost her virginity last Friday night. She's been on the pill for less than a month now due to very heavy menstrual bleeding. She told me about her losing her virginity and I was not happy with her because she had no idea what she was doing. She told me that her boyfriend couldn't fit his whole penis inside of her and that it hurt her bad. That I understand. She goes on to tell me that she thinks she is pregnant and she has done research and she is showing signs. But it has only been 5 days since she had sex. So I told her I thought that usually its possible but very rare to have symptoms that early in pregnancy. I asked her if he used a condom and she said yes but that it broke and she doesnt even know if he came or not. I feel like I can't help her if she doesnt know. I told her in a couple weeks if she didnt get her period I would get her a HPT. But how can I help her feel less nervous and stressed out in the mean time? She is very hormonal and ****** and mood swings since its happened.

[strvnwritr]

Honestly, she probably is having symptoms because she is so scared she might have gotten pregnant. But here are some things you can tell her to reassure her:

1. She wouldn't be experiencing symptoms at this point. Symptoms start after implantation. Implantation doesn't happen until 6-10 days after conception. Conception doesn't happen until a few hours to a few days after sex. So even if she conceived, she wouldn't have implanted yet.

2. She's on the pill. That reduces her risk dramatically, even if she hasn't taken it perfectly.

3. He used a condom. Even if it broke, it probably would have still kept out some of the semen, further reducing the risk of pregnancy.

4. If she doesn't know if he ejaculated, he may not have.

You're right that in a couple of weeks, she can take a test but hopefully she'll start to feel better about it in the meantime. Good luck!

[anniemal]

Oh dear...but yes I agree with

Good luck....keep us posted.

[Kris1001]

Thank you for the help. I honestly hope she is not pregnant, I'll keep you guys updated.

[Kris1001]

She took a pregnancy test. It came back positive...

[twoboys]

What??? Oh wow, How is she doing? How are you doing? How many days is she now after having sex? Which test did she take? a blue dye or pink dye?

[Kris1001]

She's scared and mad at herself.
I'm disappointed. I always thought that I would have a baby before my sister, and I knew that her hormones were going crazy and that she was going to lose her virginity one day and I tried to prepare her and tell her what to expect because I knew telling her not to do it wouldn't help her. I'm honestly trying to be strong for her but really I'm upset about it.
She had sex on January 27th... its been 28 days...
She took an "Answer" test from Walmart.. It was pink dye. Results were definitely positive... She took a earlier test about a week and a half after the 27th and it came back negative but turned positive over night... That made no sense to me or her and I wish someone could explain that?

Originally Posted by twoboys

What??? Oh wow, How is she doing? How are you doing? How many days is she now after having sex? Which test did she take? a blue dye or pink dye?

[Loving6]

Turning positive overnight is an evap.The test dryed and caused an evap,that is why there are time limits on tests.

[Kris1001]

Okay thank you that would explain that.

Originally Posted by Loving6

Turning positive overnight is an evap.The test dryed and caused an evap,that is why there are time limits on tests.

[Loving6]

And I wanted to something about your sister but really didn't know what.I want to Congratulate her because a baby is a gift,but on the other hand I'm sure she's scared to death.I wish her all the luck and you too.You must be strong for her and the baby.Good luck to you both.

[twoboys]

I too am stuck on what to say, its very hard to congratulate a 14 year old because she is so very young, lucky though to have you there to help and guide her. All you can do is hold her hand and just be there for her, be sure she takes her prenatals and that she sees the doctor regularly. Just watch and be sure eats/drinks healthy and try and be as supportive as possible, she will need you the WHOLE way and then some. Good luck to the both of you

ETA, what I mean is its hard to express congratulations because your sister is still so young herself, but as a previous poster mentioned each child is a blessing, and each mother to be deserves congratulations!! and I am sure with your support she will do fine, I just didnt want you to take that the wrong way

[Kris1001]

Thank you both for the help and yes, its going to be hard for her but I know she can do it.. She told our mom tonight... Not happy but supportive.. Our dad will be a different story..

[AlixJ20]

Did you actually see the test? It's just hard for me to believe because usually people that feel "symptoms" that early are just scared. Has she taken any other tests since? I would get her a digital one and have her take it and let you see, because if she only told you it's positive then who knows she could have read it wrong. It's kind of insane if she's for sure pregnant seeing as it was her first time, she was on the pill, and they used a condom. I would say if she really is then that's something that was really meant to happen apparently.

[Kris1001]

I saw the test. It was definitely positive.


She had just started the test and she told me that a week after it happened she stopped taking the pill because she was afraid that if she was pregnant (which obviously she is now) that it would hurt the baby... I don't know what to think about that. But I know.. for sure that test was positive.

[Mrs_lynn.c]

I got pregnant with my son who is now 17 when i was 14 years old and it only took one time of the condom breaking and i was in total denial that I was pregnant because I had what I thought was my period after the oops and found out three months later that I was indeed pregnant. So she needs to get to the doctor rite away to start her on some vitamins,they will do another test at the doctor but early prenatal care is important.Good luck and congrats to your sister.

[WhitBrooke23]

I Have a friend who got pregnant at age 14 and she's a great mom! It's hard being so young, but with a supportive family, it doesn't have to be a bad thing. I'm sure she is terrified, but she's lucky to have a sister looking out for her. just encourage her to do her best to hold herself together for the sake of that little miracle. And to start thinking of how she wants to handle her education... My friend dropped out... But there are other options... She can take college courses next semester & the school will probably count them as high school credit if she tells them her situation... Which would also help her finish college sooner too.

Hope things go well telling your father. and just remind her one slip up doesn't have to ruin her life... It will only be a negative force if she allows it to be. But if she gets her education and enjoys this baby she can never regret anything

Meanwhile, any news on you?

Best of luck!

[cutenurse24]

Praying for you and your sister!!! Hope things go well when telling your dad. She is lucky to have a big sister like you. I'm sure she is very scared and nervous. The really important thing is she sees the doctor soon and gets good prenatal care. Look forward to hearing an update on you and your sister. Good luck and congrats to both of you.

[anniemal]

Oh wow.....As the other ladies have said, a baby is a blessing. And even if he/she was not planned, they're still a gift.

Praying for a healthy and happy 9 months. And praying that you get the BFP you're wanting as well.

[Kris1001]

Thank you all so much. I will keep everyone updated