HELP!!!! Should we schedule an OB appointment?

SeanHarris · #1 April 9th, 2012, 12:31 PM

I hope I am posting in the right place, sorry if I am not. I tried not to read anything as this is place for you ladies to express yourself and I am sure some of you wouldn't really want a man in this environment.

I think my wife is pregnant, but I think she doesn't know what to think anymore. Let me start by saying we have a 3 year old daughter and we started trying to conceive our second child right after her last menstrual cycle that started Feb. 18th. She ovulated on March 2-4 and we had our private no toddler time to help along any attempts at pregnancy. About a week after that she started cramping and she found that odd as she was still a week away from her next cycle. Typically she doesn't have menstrual problems till the day of or the day after. She had a doctors appointment 2 days before her cycle was to show up and when the doctor asked the typical "are you pregnant?" my wife said that we are trying to conceive so she didn't want anything that would affect a pregnancy. The doctor order a urine test and some blood work. The urine test came back negative (which we expected as my wife didn't get a positive pregnancy test with our daughter till week 7).The doctor herself said it could be way too early to detect and respected our wishes to not take anything that could possibly interfere with a pregnancy. A week goes by still no cycle, no cravings for chocolate, she actually hated the smell of it right now. Her breasts are tender, nipples have all these crazy little bumps on them and are darker then before. She goes back to the doctor 2 weeks later for a follow up, still no cycle and they have the blood work results. The doctor informs us that she has Poly cystic Fibrosis and prescribes Metformin. With a mention of there still being no cycle and the many symptoms my wife is having the doctor points out it is highly unlikely for her to be pregnant as she has this condition and is only just now going to be getting treated for it. So the doctor doesn't test her again and now my wife is sitting at home believing everything going on with her body is in her head. My issue with this is her mom informed her she was told about this when she was 21, when my wife didn't have a way to cover medical or medication she needed. So until now she wasn't taking care of this medical condition, but we conceived our daughter without her being on medication to help correct this medical problem so I am under the belief that if we were able to conceive our daughter without medical help we could conceive a second time the same way. Not only that her symptoms are getting more obvious not less, which i believe if they were in her head they would end up going away. Instead she now gets emotionally invovled in things that never mattered to her before like an episode of survivor that she doesn't even like watching. I am also not allowed to lift my arms around her as my deodorant makes her almost throw up.

Here is a list of her symptoms so far:
lower backache
nausea
sensitive to smells
highly emotional
exhausted
tender breasts
has been 7 weeks since last cycle

Should we schedule an appointment with another doctor or ob? What can i do to help my wife?

tygrss · #2 April 9th, 2012, 01:16 PM

You two could get another OB or midwife. However, if it has been 7 weeks since her last period and she tested + at this point last time, then why don't you buy an HPT and test at home? I'd assume that it would be positive by now. It's best to find if she's pregnant earlier rather than later.

GL!

Oh, and I wanted to add, whether pregnant or not, I'd recommend another Doctor. There's no need to deal with someone who doesn't listen to your concerns (and I'm a Doctor myself, so this isn't doctor-bashing). Doctor's are there to listen and then make diagnoses and recommendations based on medical knowledge PLUS the patient's concern/symptoms.

HTH.

Loving6 · #3 April 9th, 2012, 01:26 PM

I agree that if she didn't test positive till 7 weeks before then you should test again and see.GL

Blcooper32 · #4 April 9th, 2012, 02:00 PM

Have her test it should show up...good luck

JulieMc · #5 April 9th, 2012, 04:50 PM

You didn't mention if she's regular or not either though. From my understanding, people with PCOS have anovulatory cycles and longer, less frequent cycles. So....not conforming to the standard 28 day cycle might be an explanation for a lack of a period.

Spend a couple bucks on some tests and see what it says. If you're still worried, seek out another doctor or OB. Having a quantitative hcg test done is no big deal and any doc should be willing to do it if you think she might be pregnant.

SeanHarris · #6 April 10th, 2012, 04:13 PM

I went out last night and bought her 2 pregnancy tests, she took one this morning and it came back positive. She was happy and slightly shocked, very emotional morning for her. I want to thank you ladies for your thoughts and opinions, I really didn't know what to do. When I earlier asked if she wanted me to buy a pregnancy test her response was "why waste the money?" At least now we know she is and we can make sure they get the care they need. Again thank you!