Update on me! Xposted..

SilverRose · #1 April 28th, 2012, 08:41 PM

So, yesterday I had my tubal ligation. Everyone keeps asking why I've done it when I'm only 26 and only have one child. Well, 1. with my bi polar I can't be off meds, 2. the judge has made it known at custody hearings for my daughter that if I'm not on meds he doesn't see me as a fit parent. And I'm not gonna choose a future pregnancy over a child I already have. Plus, my bi polar and ADHD got extremely worse after my daughter was born. I also have some health problems with my kidney's and bladder and my kidney dr made it clear to me that a pregnancy could possibly be very hard and/or damaging to my kidneys. So with health issues and my daughter's best interests at heart I made the very difficult decision to have my tubes tied, so there wouldn't even be a surprise pregnancy. It was very hard to make the decision. I've been on the fence for a couple of years thinking I might want another child. But I think I have made the right decision. I do currently have a new boyfriend and I made this decision and signed the appropriate paperwork before I met him and he had no part in my decision. I am sad at not having the opportunity to have feel another child growing inside me, but I think this was the best thing for my health and my daughter.

the surgery was quick. They didn't give me enough pain meds for when I woke up from the anesthesia and I was literally full body shaking in pain. they gave me a dose of morphine to go home with. My body does not like opiates. and it really sent my insomnia in a tizzy. I've gotten very little sleep since 5:30 am yesterday morning. I'm one of the few that has trouble passing the carbon dioxide gas they pump into your abdominal cavity. My surgery was completed around 9:30 friday morning and I am just now starting to get rid of the gas. thank god

But other than the painfully full feeling I am not in any pain. My incisions don't hurt and I am thankful for that. Anyway, that's me. I hope it's ok if I stick around and look at you guy's pee sticks??

Papasgirl · #2 April 29th, 2012, 04:44 AM

Well you definitely sound as if you made the right choice for you and your little one and I applaud your courage.... Good for you for being strong and level headed! Best of luck to you!

aarafko · #3 April 29th, 2012, 05:45 AM

Good for you Silver. I'm glad you made the right decision for you and Char. Oh yes and Congrats on the new boyfriend!

SilverRose · #4 April 29th, 2012, 06:52 AM

Thanks, Ladies. Timmy really is very sweet. And i hope this one works out.

Loving6 · #5 April 29th, 2012, 06:52 AM

What a strong and unselfish woman you are.That takes so much to have a tubal ligation with one child but I see where you needed to do it.Sounds like you made the right decision!!!

MosaicWife · #6 April 29th, 2012, 07:20 AM

You know I think you're a very brave and intelligent woman. You made a hard decision based on what was best for you and Shar. I'm sorry you went through so much after the surgery but I'm glad you're not in any pain.