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Anyone in the same position as me? My DH has after many years of asking, begging, pleading, reluctantly agreed to TTC #3. He is on board but sort of not since he really doesn't want another but will do it since he loves me. He is a great dad and I know he will be to another.
Problem, the extra bd around fertile times stresses him out! I try to make it amorous and not sperm donorish (made up a word) but it is a bit trying!
Today is CD13, got some EWCM starting today, bd last night, negative OPK yesterday and today. I so want to bd tonight, and every night until I get a + and then a - on the OPK but I don't want him to get turned off by being a sperm donor so to speak.
I am leaving it for tonight (so hard to do) so that if I get a + OPK tomorrow I can dance away!
What do you ladies think? How reliable have you all found the OPK's? I get nervous that I got a - and that I will somehow miss it even though the peak LH should happen 24 hours or so before O. Anyone O much sooner than the OPK suggested?
Sorry for rambling, this is what I am doing instead of bd...
I usually ovulate on the second + opk, so about 24-36 hours after the first one, but last cycle I used IC opks and actually O'ed the same day as my + opk. They say it's 12-48 hours, but I think it's more like 12-36 hours after your first + opk, of course that can vary on how long the surge was actually there before you took the test.
I dont use OPK's but my husband gets kind of weirded out with me wanting to BD like crazy around our fertile window & not so much the rest of the month.. I try to make it less "sperm donor-ish" by doing new things to keep him excited instead of getting routine... So one night I might wear some lingerie & light candles.. Then the next ill meet him at the door when he gets home from work & we won't even make it to the bedroom.. Then other days I'll do things I know he really likes.. So last night I went down on him to spice things up (I know saliva isn't good for sperm, but it's better than not bd at all!) but it keeps things fresh & keeps him coming back ;-) hope you have some luck keeping your DH motivated!
My husband used to have the same issue. I started doing little things to make it more exciting..like sending him dirty texts throughout the day..and some pictures They need to feel wanted and I think if you turn on the "you are the hottest thing in the world and I want you" it will work like a charm. It did for me anyway.. Good luck and try to have fun!
P.S. Try not to tell him what is going on with your cycle..that was always a big no no for my hubby
You guys are awesome!! I have been purposefully NOT telling him anything about my cycle and he seems happy in blissful ignorance! So I have been much better with this cycle than last, more natural.
As far as the OPK's so I got negative on Sunday and Monday (CD12,13) - totally stark white, no line whatsoever and today I got a negative as well but there is clearly a line, just not as dark as the control window. What do you think? Likely get a + tomorrow? Bd tonight for sure!!
It's also that if you have just started TTC the idea of DTD can feel weird without any protection and that way affect his lust. Hopefully it gets better with time if that's the reason. Also I agree that it's better to not tell about where you are at the cycle
That isn't an issue, we have been married for ten years next week, two kids already and our bc method has always been pills...but the knowing that the result is a baby that he is not enthusiastic about is a wilter so to speak...
Thanks for the input, I am going to put on the moves later
Honestly, you might be over-complicating it. Use the OPK's for your own curiosity if you wish, but the more critical sign to watch for is slippery mucus. That's when you're at your most fertile. As long as you can BD at least once while you have slippery mucus, you don't need to go into overkill during the rest of the fertile phase. If you notice slick or lubricated feelings (and maybe even see EWCM to go with it), that's the time to BD!
The OPK tells you when your body is preparing to ovulate, and that's great. But the slippery CM tells you that your body is preparing to ovulate and that sperm has the best chance of survival in your body at that moment!