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I live in texas and i am going through a divorce. I have a pro bono attorney that i will be calling on monday to see if they will help me out (they office only takes calls monday to wednesday for new people).
my question is can a refuse visitation till i can meet this girl that the father of my kids is seeing...please keep in mind that we have only been seperated for about 3 weeks and have a new born, a 2 year old, and a 3 year old together. I have met her only once in passing and i need to know how she is with my kids.....oh and he apparently has moved her and her 3 kids in with him.
what is my right to his money. am i intitled to half of it because we are still married and in texas they don't recongnize legal seperation.
if you have any websites that will help me out or any information that you know of please let me know.
These sites are pretty helpful. I did my divorce in TX myself. Im not sure about the money thing, but I will say unless you are worried for your children's immediate safety and can prove why, denying him visitation will just look bad on you in court. Hope some of this helps.
I agree about denying him visitation. Unless you have proof that she is unsafe for your kids to be around, I would not do that. Now you might talk to him and tell him that you would feel much better about the kids being with him if he didn't leave them alone with her simply because you don't know her but don't deny him his children. You might even suggest to him that 6 children are an awful lot for ANYONE to deal with and that perhaps if he visits them on his own and drops them back at your house at night it might be better--especially for the baby. The thing is, women have a tendancy to think of kids as THEIRS and not as the fathers having equal rights to them. That isn't fair nor is it the right thing to do. Children need their fathers as much as they need their mothers and unless there is a legitimate reason for them to be denied access to the kids, they should be allowed to see them as much as the situation permits. I think part of the reason that so many fathers slowly stop seeing their children is because they don't see them much to begin with. It's hard to say goodbye to a child when you know you aren't going to see them for two weeks...imagine doing that every two weeks! So it becomes a sort of avoidance theme for them to slowly stop seeing them as much. It's easier to say "I have something I need to do this weekend" and not see them for two more weeks than it is to have to say goodbye. If moms would keep the children in the father's lives a little more, I think we'd see less of that happening. Not to say that it would never happen because some parents--moms and dads--are just jerks and will stop seeing their kids at all no matter what. But it would be a lot easier to say goodbye if the parent is going to see the child in four days than it is if they aren't going to see them for 2 weeks. Obviously, there are also some parents who simply should not be allowed to see their child(ren) and that's not the situation I am referring to here. In the average, run of the mill divorce each parent should see the children as much as possible. Keep in mind, kids aren't property and they did NOT ask that their family be broken up! The need BOTH parents! Remember that when you're making decisions about them.