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February 12th, 2010, 01:57 AM
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He called me and asked if I wanted to go to the shooting range with him. He said it's a great stress relief.
Why are my boundaries being crossed repeatedly? When my disomfort is obvious, and I said I dont like guns (not to mention being around him) why does he continue? People keep telling me that I should at least go down to the police station and just repeat the story to them. But I just dont have any grounds to do that? My life was not endangered. There was no gun pointed at me. But still other people argue that in the worst case scenario, that whoever the officer was that I talked to, would be able to recall that I did go down there and voiced my concerns.
Just keep feeling like I should REALLY not have my fingerprints on the gun. Like he's up to something. I would rather be too safe than very sorry. Why would he keep asking me to touch it even after I say I dont like guns? And now calling me to go to a shooting range with him? WE DONT EVEN LIKE EACH OTHER! Why!!!???? Anyone? Call me paranoid, call me the queen of safety first...I dont care....but do tell me WTH?
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February 12th, 2010, 03:50 AM
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Please go to the police & relay this information immediately; waiting for whatever reason is only going to stretch it out unnecessarily.
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February 12th, 2010, 05:38 AM
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I agree. I don't like this either. I can think of all kinds of scenarios where this fits...none of them good ones. Go talk to the police. You don't need a reason--just the fact that you're going through a divorce is enough reason. That he is acting strangely is enough of a reason. That you feel uncomfortable!
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February 12th, 2010, 08:37 AM
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It does seem like he's up to something. In my experince my ex is only nice when he wants something. I don't think the police will do anything (my past experince). Maybe file a retraining order most of the time just because your getting a divorce they grant them and just tell them your scared of him which is true. Depending on the state you live in there's places you can go to get it done for free. Besides it wouldn't hurt to try, especially after last time...

Is he just a gun guy, my DH is and sometimes he gets excited and wants to show off his guns... I'm not trying to deminish your fear because like I said he seems like he is up to something.
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February 12th, 2010, 11:46 AM
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I agree with the others, completely.

My ex is psycho like that too. He'll threaten me or call me everyname in the book and tell me how much he hates me and hopes I don't have a tire blow out on the freeway .... then the next day he'll ask to take me to dinner or something.
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February 13th, 2010, 12:28 AM
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It does seem like he's up to something. In my experince my ex is only nice when he wants something. I don't think the police will do anything (my past experince). Maybe file a retraining order most of the time just because your getting a divorce they grant them and just tell them your scared of him which is true. Depending on the state you live in there's places you can go to get it done for free. Besides it wouldn't hurt to try, especially after last time...

Is he just a gun guy, my DH is and sometimes he gets excited and wants to show off his guns... I'm not trying to deminish your fear because like I said he seems like he is up to something.
I dont mind your posts. I can appreciate that online no one actually knows all the details or the even the person and we can all come to conclusions, ask questions on the opposite end of the spectrum, based on our experiences and such to share experiences, present a different way of thinking about something, relate, and support. I dont feel that you were belittling what I am saying at all.

He has mentioned guns a just couple times over the years. Mostly pertaining to his father and a gun he had left for him but his mom did something with it or something. How he was raised with them and such. I have also thought that perhaps because of his job, it really isn't a big deal to him. What bothers me is the boundries, my discomfort that he is aware of, and it just doesn't stop, and of course, the whacko history.

I dont care if someone is a gun guy or not a gun guy. It is the KIND of person that is a gun guy but probably shouldn't be.
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February 13th, 2010, 10:49 AM
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I totally agree with you hopenot4gotten There are guys out there that shouldn't have guns!!! I still think you might be able to get a retraining order, then he's have to turn in his guns. I'll keep you in my T&P. Please talk to the police/court, to get some help!!
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