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I went to court today for Brianna's court. The judge decided to let her go home to her dad. She's on house arrest (has an anklet), and probation for a year, she can't use a cell phone borrow one or the computer except for school. This is as of right now. She has court again on the 22nd.
After her dad told me how he was going to support what ever punishment and do what ever it takes to get her help. It all changed after the PO said she might stay for 2 wks. Now again it's all my fault and my DH and I are the jerks!! I did want her to stay in juvy just because I don't think she's learned anything. She called me 2 times over the time that she was in juvy. I just called and tried to talk to her and she doesn't want to talk to me. She did say she loves me but didn't want to talk to me.
I'm so mad because I have been saying she has a problem with the texting thing for over a year. He is such a jerk because I know he's telling her that it's all my fault. Well I guess it is because I did have her arrested. If you guys saw the bruises you would all agree.
The judge did say he wants us to go to this parent project class. I just can't do another class with my X. He manipulates and is just a salesman (no offence to salesmen), he speaks with a forked tounge. He is slick as snot!! He lies and just says what he thinks you want to hear, just to make you think he's on your side then he turns.
I'm so heart broken over this whole situation. I love her and I just don't understand why this is happening. IDK.
Margaret, you did the right thing in having her arrested and your ex can say whatever he wants to...someday your daughter will understand. Personally, I think he is reacting more to the idea that he may be called out as a bad parent than anything that's going on with her. That's why he is blaming you. He gives into her to keep the peace and you're trying to actually parent her. HE knows he is in the wrong for allowing this behavior to continue--what parent wouldn't see that? Sexting at her age???? Violent outbursts???? OHHELLNO! She's out of control and something has to be done! Well he wasn't doing anything and you stepped up to the plate and now he's afraid someone is going to question why he didn't do something sooner? Why did it have to reach this point? Because he isn't parenting her. This is also why she prefers his house--she can get away with more. I'm glad the judge saw that she needs to be punished. I just wish her father would see that too.