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I'm still waiting to hear anything from the next phase of the divorce. It's supposed to be a quiet no hassle uncontested, but I am waiting on the papers for the affidavit part which would tell me if he's going to try & be a jerk or not.
I don't see that happening though since he & his twit have set a wedding date already so he would not want to rock the boat & have it contested by making claims to anything after all this time, but you just never know.
My ex is still being a butt, he hasn't seen the kids in 4 months. Still isn't paying what he is suppose to either. I talked to him on Friday he told me he went bankrupt and that his lawyer is trying to get a hold of mine. Mine is away until the end of the month. He is going to try and appeal the court ordered child support cause he says he can't afford it. He told me its my lawyers and my fault he had to go bankrupt cause we wouldn't wait until he got his bills taken care of before we filed for child support. He doesn't take any responsibility what-so -ever. He told me I took the kids away from him and that he isn't a bad father he just can't afford to come see them.
Mom to Arielle13,Tyler 10.5, Dylan 8.5 and Autumn Rayne 21mths and Step dd Nevaeh 3
LOL Yeah, it's YOUR fault he hasn't paid his bills..I love it. He sounds like my ex. The man was making over 300,000 when I divorced his sorry butt and hasn't worked a DAY since the divorce...but it's MY fault he doesn't have any money...oh and my middle son's, too because he's "paying his rent and utilities"...funny thing is my son doesn't know this so he is paying his rent and utilities too...hmmm...
We reached an agreement on (no trial) and now he called the attorney and said he wanted to change it to separation.
I said as long as he would pay the costs to change it, that everything in the divorce papers would stay the same if we changed it, that the monthly amount I would get would go up, I would agree.
The reason I agreed? Because the most important thing to me right now, is my kids being taken care of-the more money the better quality of life they have while I am waiting on my certs. I have 5 children and wont be dating or meeting anyone new anytime soon. I am not very hopeful about working anything out, but have seen miracles just not overnight. I still plan on moving out of state regardless. I dont feel stuck if we changed it to separation because in my thinking, we are already done-this is just for the money and insurance.
It did shock me because it wasn't my idea. It also shocked me that when I said it was probably too late with the hearing being scheduled, he said just pray-it's never too late.
I am not sure if it's just panic mode, or realizations, but at this point I dont care too much.
If I do this, then I could afford to move out and actually afford to pay rent, the kids would still have insurance, and it would make it better for us for right now. I know that I could have to go BACK and do this over to make it final, but that's fine. As long as I am financially protected, and can still go to school...which I am either way...I am happy.