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hi everyone , I'm Rebekah (21) mother of two little girls. I have been on Jm for awhile… but haven't been on in ages. I was also on this board for a bit awhile back, but of course that didn't last for long because I let ex-dh back in … again. well this time its over for good and I am looking into divorce this time not just seperation. I have no idea where to even begin with this! thanks for listening and hope to talk to you all soon
Let me start by saying first, stand your ground and remember that you can do this without him.
That being said, the best way to do this (because you live in the same Province as me) is to let the 1 year separation run it's course; that is the easiest way to start a divorce.
Firstly, what you can do is start a court case for custody, visitation and child support.
You really don't need a lawyer to do any of it unless you want to go that route, so if you feel confident in filing/serving and making your own court appearances (where you don't even have to say much of anything as long as you followed the documentation process) then I will gladly lead you through it, I have done it myself.
Getting a final order in regards to the kids is a good way to move towards an uncontested divorce (which costs money without a lawyer as well).
Since you're in Ontario you have a few important other time lines to remember. Once 90 days has passed from the time that you separated for good, file a change of marital status with the Canada Revenue Agency - this will change your CCTB cheque (for the better) because they take his income out of the equation - they will back date it to the date of the separation.
It will also change your GST which may or may not be backdated depending on the timing.
As I said, if you want some deeper information and help with the legal aspect, send me a PM as I know the process well enough to fill things out with my eyes closed