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Went to court today and they granted me my divorce, so in 30 days, once my attorney recieves my papers, I'm free! Excited because its been almost 3 years since this divorce was started... My question is I have been seperated from my ex for 4 years now and although I know I should of waited for my divorce to be final to start another relationship, I didn't... You can't help who you fall in love with... Anyways my boyfriend and I just had a baby in Jan which has my ex's last name because in the state of Tennessee, if you're still legally married, the child is considered your husbands... I need to know how to go about getting her name changed now that my divorce is final... Has anyone delt with something like this before? My ex isn't denying her to be my boyfriends... and my boyfriends not denying her... Can I file papers without an attorney? I just need to know what steps I need to take to change her last night to her daddy's!
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from everything I'm reading, you need to contact vital statistics and they will tell you how to go about changing it. In TX, all you have to do is have your ex sign a legal form that says he's not the father and your BF sign one that says he is. Some states require paternity tests, so you may have to do that too. In any case, call vital statistics, number is below:
Im thinking paternity tests, too? Unless its legal in your state for one person to remove their name and add another name to the birth cert? OR...maybe your ex can claim he's not the father or dispute it, which would require a paternity test??
You can talk to an attorney in your state to see which route would be best...just my .02
That law is SOMEWHAT the same in Iowa, if you are legally married, your husbands name automatically goes on the birth certificate, BUT you can choose which last name you want your child to have, when I was still married to my ex, his name went onto Emory's birth certificate but I did not have to give him my ex's last name, so there for, he has my maiden name.
In your situation, you may want to contact the Department of Vital Records and ask them how you should go about your situation, just explain it to them and they should be able to direct you into the right direction. I don't think your BF would have to adopt her, but I do believe a paternity test may be required (even though you know he is her father) and there may be some steps requiring your ex husband to sign a legal document stating his not the father of your daughter!
Aaron Nicole, I think you misunderstood the situation. Serenity13's child isn't her soon to be ex's bio child. They were separated when she got pregnant with current guy. She wouldn't change the name if it was his kid. But it isn't. The true father needs to be on the birth certificate.
In your case, your brother can fight it. It isn't legal for them to change the name of his child without his permission. He may want to check because they couldn't do it legally so they may just be using the name without changing legal documents.