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November 20th, 2010, 06:31 AM
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I haven't popped on here in awhile. I don't even know if you remember me as I only posted an intro probably baack in April??

Dh went to a party in May a couple states away and came home "after thinking long and hard" and told me he wanted to work on things. Well I just found out this week (by looking at his email files) that the woman who was his childhood friend (they've been talking a lot since Jan... she's happily married with kids... I always knew there was something more but they always denied it)... anyway I found an email from them both . This email is from July. So over 4 months ago. And hers basically said, if he wasn't going to be talking to her she waned to know why. He told her that he thought she had feelings for him, and when he went to the party and saw she treated him the same way she treats all of her friends that he realized he didn't have a chance. So on the drive home , he realized what he was doing to her, him, me and Libby (my DD) and was going to man up and take care of his family.

We're donig ok. I don't nkow if he's happy or not. Some days yes, others no. Problems is. As happy as she is and KNOWING how he feels, she still calls adn texts him periodically. It's NEVER him reaching out to her.. and it makes me ill.

I dn't feel like I can tell him I read this email cuz we've had issues with me "snooping" in the past and it only makes him angry.

I just want to know he's here cuz he wants to be and not because he feels like he has tobe. I don't wanto to be a second choice. I don't know how to bring this up with him. I'm scared of the outcome. He's a really good liar. And he's good at twisting things to make me feel guilty about stuff I shouldn't.
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December 8th, 2010, 10:09 AM
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Wow thanks for the replies. Taking this board off my list.
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December 26th, 2010, 11:19 AM
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you probably won't read this - this board is really slow since there is no host so don't take it personally.

I'm sorry for what you are going through. Personally I'd have a tough time being in you situation. It would feel like he only was with me because he couldn't be with her. That wouldn't work for me.

Have you 2 considered counseling?
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