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So here's my story...two yeas ago I left an unhappy and emotionally abusive marriage after 14 years. At the time our girls were 6 and 7. Initially I planned to go for sole custody, but gave in to his manipulation and control and backed down. Fast forward to current..I'm remarried to a wonderful man and we have a 5 month old son. We now live 30 minutes away from my ex-husband, and with traffic it can take a hour and 15 minutes to get them to and from school. We've continued with the 50/50 custody and it's been a disaster. The girls take a day to adjust each time they come back to me and their father tries to be more of a friend than a parent - no discipline, forces them into various activities they don't want to do, and is now settling in with the same degree of control and manipulation he used on me for years. My husband and I are beginning the process to move a hour further away to be closer to family, and in a better city. My ex-husband hasn't worked in about 5 years and I have no idea how he is doing it financially. He is overinvolved in all of their activities and literally has no life outside of them. I have now gone back to my attorney and am beginning the process to go for sole custody. My attorney is telling me that it is going to be difficult as their father lives in the top rated school system in the state of Maryland, and although he doesn't work he looks like the better parent for being so involved in their activities. This all seems to unfair to me. How can the courts possibly feel it is better for two little girls to be with 56 year old father (he is 20 years older than me) than with their mother, in a more stable home. Any advice? Anyone else dealing with issues like this and have any advice???