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March 26th, 2012, 04:28 PM
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Hello..
I am totally new to this forum. I just separated with my boyfriend ofn 5 years. We have a 3 year old together so I am trying to have things go as smoothly as possible. I have initiated our break up for so many reasons. To start out with he never helped with bills and I feel like I always had to be his mother. We were very young parents (20 years old). However I feel like our lives have been moving in two different directions for sometime. He can be very manipulative as he doesn't appreciate me until I am walking out of the door, at which point he tells me that I am walking out on his and never stand by him. But at the end of the day I feel that I am making the right choice.

My main concern and reason for joining this forum is my child. I want to know how to make things easier on him. How can I get over my serious separation anxiety if I am serious about our breakup? The most annoying this is all of the opinions flying at me. My mother-in-law (As I call her) is constanly telling me how detrimental our split is for my child. I understand it is not ideal however I am miserably unhappy with her son. I need help dealing with this!! Please help ladies. ANy adcive or stories on how children adjusted to divorced life..please let me know.

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April 14th, 2012, 01:13 PM
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Firstly I want to tell you I'm sorry for your separation. How are you doing?

I am recently separated with two kids, but I'm happy that he's gone.

Your child will be fine, it took my kids a little bit to adjust but it has been approximately two months and they're okay now.

You need to not talk to the ex MIL and tell everyone to stop telling you crap. That will just make you anxious.

Are you 100% sure you want this separation?
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August 24th, 2012, 08:49 PM
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Im going through the same thing, i just left my boyfriend of 11yrs. and we have 7 kids together, It's tough i also get the negative feedback from the ex mother, also my mother and more, its all talk. Things do get better my new b/f is going through a divorec at the moment, it gets better just takes some time, it took me about a month to convince my ex that i wanted to take my 2 babies, were going to share custody.
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