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August 24th, 2006, 06:24 PM
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A wise woman once told me that the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. I didn't understand it at the time, but I totally do now. I don't love my ex, but I don't hate him either. I just don't care. I think that's the opposite of love.

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August 25th, 2006, 07:02 AM
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I feel anger, pitty, empathy, and sad. I cried alot at first and now I only get misty eyed thinking about some memories. I deleted all of my wedding photo's off of my computer yesterday and that felt good... sad.. but good!
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August 25th, 2006, 07:04 AM
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A wise woman once told me that the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. I didn't understand it at the time, but I totally do now. I don't love my ex, but I don't hate him either. I just don't care. I think that's the opposite of love.

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I feel exactly the same way. I hated him for a long time, but now I just don't care.
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August 25th, 2006, 08:06 AM
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I feel anger, pitty, empathy, and sad. I cried alot at first and now I only get misty eyed thinking about some memories. I deleted all of my wedding photo's off of my computer yesterday and that felt good... sad.. but good![/b]
See, I think you'll end up regretting that. I have wedding pics still in albums. I didn't want to destroy those memories because they are part of who I am today. I don't think I would be the same person today, had I not experienced the things I did in my marriage. While I don't dwell on those memories, I know they are there and I no longer look back on them and get sad. I guess you're really newly seperated, though, so I can understand it feeling good, especially if he hurt you.
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August 25th, 2006, 09:30 AM
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I feel anger, pitty, empathy, and sad. I cried alot at first and now I only get misty eyed thinking about some memories. I deleted all of my wedding photo's off of my computer yesterday and that felt good... sad.. but good![/b]
See, I think you'll end up regretting that. I have wedding pics still in albums. I didn't want to destroy those memories because they are part of who I am today. I don't think I would be the same person today, had I not experienced the things I did in my marriage. While I don't dwell on those memories, I know they are there and I no longer look back on them and get sad. I guess you're really newly seperated, though, so I can understand it feeling good, especially if he hurt you.
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August 27th, 2006, 08:04 AM
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I feel completely indifferent towards my exhusband. But we have been divorced for 11 years. As long as he is good to the kids I dont really have any opinions on him either way.
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August 27th, 2006, 11:30 PM
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I cried a lot at first and stayed so depressed because I thought that he would change and that I would be back with him. I left him because of all the abuse and drugs that he did. I have never hated my ex. We continued to talk and finally he got his life together and straightened up and by then it was too late because I moved on. I couldn't go back to him because it would have started all over. He is remarried and has a baby now and seems to be doing well. We still talk on the phone ocassionally. We are friends now and we are both fine with that. I just couldn't risk my life anymore. Does that make sense??
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August 28th, 2006, 07:11 AM
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I still have the hard copies of the wedding pictures, I just deleted the ones that I scanned onto my work computer and photobucket account. It was too hard looking at them. I took down all the pictures I had at work of him. He hurt me to the core and right now looking at him just makes me angry & sad all at the same time -- KWIM??
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August 28th, 2006, 08:56 AM
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I still have the hard copies of the wedding pictures, I just deleted the ones that I scanned onto my work computer and photobucket account. It was too hard looking at them. I took down all the pictures I had at work of him. He hurt me to the core and right now looking at him just makes me angry & sad all at the same time -- KWIM??[/b]
Totally understand that!
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August 28th, 2006, 09:22 AM
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I used to despise my ex-husband but then we became sort of friends but now he lives in Vegas so I never see him. I did see him last April when his grandmother passed but we rode in the procession together and had a lot of good conversation during the loooong ride to the cemetery. I haven't seen or talked to him since but his dad lives right down the street from me.
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August 30th, 2006, 08:10 AM
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At first I hated my husband I wanted to destroy his life and career (sp?) like he did to me and my thoughts of our family. But now I don't hate him I just want us to be friends or at least decent to each other for the sake of our kids. I don't wish him any ill will I just want to be happy in my life and that is not possible with us together.
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August 31st, 2006, 10:21 AM
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At first I hated my husband I wanted to destroy his life and career (sp?) like he did to me and my thoughts of our family. But now I don't hate him I just want us to be friends or at least decent to each other for the sake of our kids. I don't wish him any ill will I just want to be happy in my life and that is not possible with us together.[/b]
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