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Astrid~ i'm glad to see they made your suggestion into a board, CONGRATS!
here's my question~ i have a very intelligent 7 yr old. she gets all A's, tested above average on all her testing and reads at a 4th grade level. the problem is that she hates school. she will be going to 2nd grade this year and she just does not want to go. she said that she doesn't want to go, she doesn't like that the teachers make her do work and boss her around and she wants to stay home with me forever. so my question is how do i get her to realize that the teachers are not trying to boss her around and get her to like school and be excited about going back. i don't want her to hate school and have it start affecting her grades once the cirriculum starts getting harder for her. any suggestions?
Julia ~ Could you set up a meeting w/ her 2nd grade teacher before school gets started? Maybe letting her meet him/her before the going gets tough will allow your daughter to see him/her in a different light. She may also not be liking school b/c she is not challenged. If this is the case, you need to let the teacher know at the start of the school year that your daughter is advanced for her age & needs to be challenged. Maybe she can get her working in stations after she has completed her seat work. Also, a reward system may motivate her to do well in school & possibly enjoy it.
thanks Astrid~ i think i will try to set up a meeting with the teacher. could you give me some ideas for a reward system. i don't have a problem with her doing her work, she always does that with no problem for me. and she even asks me to give her work to do over the summer. the problem is that she just doesn't enjoy actually going to school.
maybe make fridays a fun family day....if she goes to school without complaint than you will go someplace fun with her on friday night to blow off steam (even if its window shopping - my dd loves to do that with me). This way she gets some special attention and has an end of the week goal/adventure to look forward to.
also is it possible for her to hook up with any girls in her class. if she has some friends at school she may just find that going is something to look forward to.
hopefully this year will be different.....the goal is to get her to try it with an open mind.
Great ideas! I was thinking that you could make a little calendar w/ a movable bus. For every day she doesn't complain, put a star on that calendar day. Have her "move the bus" as she goes along. This may help her look forward to the weekend. If she has 5 stars each week, take her for a special treat like ice cream or maybe a new workbook, school supplies, etc. Also talk to her about why teachers need to manage their classes. Discuss w/ her the fact that not all children are self motivated.
Another thing you may want to do is have her tested for GT. Normally the GT kids are grouped together & the teacher is a bit more lenient in the classroom b/c he/she knows that they are self motivated & tries different types of teaching methods which normally includes a classroom w/ less management by the teacher.