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Okay, when my son was born I managed to successfully breast feed him for 12 weeks, before I started to resent the night time feeds, and hubby being able to sleep. So we switched to formula feeds and split up feeding.
With my daughter, due to her being 12 weeks early, I couldn't keep up my supply pumping, and cut it short at 3 weeks, before switching to donar milk, followed by formula.
Both kids are doing fine. But I'd really like some tips for coping with breastfeeding, at least for the first 6 months of bubs life. I also have the added stress of suffering from Post Partum Depression which may have hindered the process previously.
I think the depression definitely had an effect on the resentment you felt. I always felt the same way with DH, I would just sit there and glare at him, because he got to sleep and I didn't.
The best thing you can do is to get support, from your DH, family and friends. Have DH do everything BUT the feedings in the middle of the night. Have him get up and change his/her diaper. In the daytime, have family and friends help out so you can get a nap so you don't feel so tired in the middle of the night. Most importantly, be aware of the signs of your PPD and get the help you need early on.
Andrea, mom to 3 beautiful girls - Abigail (8) Annabelle (6) and Alexis (3)
Ditto Andrea! You can also get antidepressents & other meds that are compatible with BFing. Beware of medications for supply that may worsen PPD (Like Reglan). And being in Australia, you may want to see what services are available to you after the birth - perhaps a PostPartum Doula may ease the burden in the early weeks.
Educating the people arund you is also crucial. Get your DH involved if possible, read & research as much as possible early on. Find the local LLL meetings (theyre worldwide), and perhaps get in touch with a LC early on. Attend the meetings with LLL BEFORE you have the baby if possible.
You have some experience under your belt, and with each baby you have had experience with, it will help you with the next Good for you for still considering giving it a go! And of course, were always around to help. Usually if you can get past the initial phases into the period where there are no bumps, no issues, then youll sail smoothly from there on out
Wishing you lots of luck this time!!!
I guess I am bad but I didn't let dh sleep. lol. Even though I breastfed I didn't think it was fair he got to sleep all night if I couldn't. So we developed a system - when the baby woke up dh would get her, change her diaper and then bring her to me. When I was done nursing he would put her back in her bassinet. Some nights I let him sleep, but most nights he got up with me. It worked out well for us.