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Caleb is 4 days old. I nursed my first for 8 months, so I know it's hard in the beginning. But, I think I'd forgotten just how difficult it can be sometimes!! Caleb has been pretty good...good latch, stays on the breast for a long time, etc. But, in the last 24 hours there have been 2 times that I have just NOT been able to get him to latch on for ANYTHING. I know a lot of it has to do with my milk coming in and I'm a little engorged. Not too bad so far though...but I know it feels different to him. The first time it happened was at 4am. He was screaming, wouldn't latch, finally he just wore himself out and conked out. I laid him back down and he slept for 1/2 an hour and woke back up and latched on no problem and ate just fine. Second time was this afternoon. I tried for an hour and a half to get him to latch on! I pumped a little to get rid of some of the engorgement and that didn't help. He just kept screaming every time I tried to latch him on. Finally I just grabbed the pump, pumped 1.5 oz. (in about 2 minutes which totally shocked me...didn't know I had that much milk yet!) and fed him 1/2 an ounce from the bottle just to calm him down because he was so hungry, then took it away and he latched on to the breast for about 10 minutes and conked out and has been that way ever since. I cried the whole time I was giving him the bottle because I know it's early and I really REALLY don't wanna mess this up, but I had a hungry baby on my hands and in the moment I didn't know what else to do! So now I'm sooo nervous about how the next feeding is going to go! I don't want to resort to the pump and bottle feeding again...
This happened to me too. My son was a horrible nurser for about the first month. It was so hard, I cried every feed and I ended up pumping exclusively for about 2 weeks. I just persisted and at around 6 weeks things got so much better. I don't know much else to say but, hang in there, it will get better. One thing that worked for me was the Brestfriend pillow (instead of the Boppy). It really helped him latch on correctly. Also, go easy on the pumping. Only pump as much as you need to... not more than that. I still have an oversupply because of all the pumping I did! Also, are you using breast friendly bottles? I used the First Years Breastflow bottles, and he never really had nipple confusion. Anyway, I hope someone else can offer some better advice. Just hang in there. I know how hard it is. It WILL get better, I promise. Just remember that.
Oh, and CONGRATS!!!
mama to 5 yr old DS1 , 3 year old DS2 , and nursling DD .
Ditto about the pumping - just enough to soften the breast to help him latch. Another thing I did was warm wet compresses. It would warm it, allow some milk to express naturally, and soften up the breast.
(((hugs))) Its all temporary No need in making permanent changes for a temporary problem