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I am due in just a few weeks and wanted to know how you ladies do it? I am worrying about having to be fully awake every two hours to nurse my newborn and still having enough energy to look after my 2 y/o DD..... Do you have any tips, suggestions?
I have two daughters...2 years and almost 9 months. They are just shy of 19 months apart, but Katy and I (my 9 month old) are still going strong in our BF'ing relationship. You can do this!
I just wanted to address you concern with being awake every two hours to nurse. Katy is still waking every 1.5-2 hours at night. It's been a looong raod and I expect it to continue for awhile, but what has helped me is learning to nurse in the side-lying position. Neither one of us is fully awake since we part-time co-sleep and nurse lying down. It takes some practice, but WELL worth it.
<div align="center"><span style="font-family:Arial Black">Sarah- Loving mama to Ally and Katy</div></span>
This is my first so I don't know how it would go with an older child in the house but the lack of sleep didn't really hit me til about 6 weeks and by then he started sleeping a bit more during the night. Maybe I was running on adrenaline, I don't know. It's not like feeding formula is a guarantee of 8 hours of straight sleep in a newborn either.
The first couple of weeks not as bad as I expected. I think my body was okay with the bits of broken sleep because it knew it had to be. The one thing I have done more often than not, is to put my 3 yr old down for a nap and then take the baby to my room and lay down and nurse him to sleep. We all get a good 2 hour nap that way. I also nurse laying down throughout the night and have baby in the cosleeper or in my bed. I think that's the only way to get any sleep. Best of luck to you!
Ditto the side lying position. At night I am never fully awake when feeding. Heck, most of the time I only barely rouse long enough to hook him up and I doze back off. He sleeps while he eats so it works great for us. MUCH better than having to get up and actually fix a bottle. I think then I would be completely exhausted.
The nap idea is great too if you can get your LO to take a nap. Landon quit taking naps long before Lawson arrived! Landon was in Pre-K when I had Lawson so that gave me the ability to nap during the day when he was at school. Then when Pre-K got out about a month after I had Lawson, I let Landon continue to go to daycare because they were in summer camp and got to go to field trips like 3-4 days out of the week and I felt like that would be more fun for him than sitting at home watching mom feed the baby all day. Plus I had a pretty bad case of post partum so it was helpful there as well. And then I would have one on one time with the baby like Landon got when he was a baby. I would also pick Landon up early at school to spend more time with him while baby was sleeping.
I know this wont work for everyone but it worked out well for us.
Co-sleeping is great! Another thing that helped me was setting small goals, like 3 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, etc. That way when you feel overwhelmed, your goal feels more realistic than something like one whole year. You can totally do this!!! Congrats!!!
mama to 5 yr old DS1 , 3 year old DS2 , and nursling DD .
I was blessed with a 2nd baby who loves to sleep (5 hours, nurse, 3 hours or so) and then several naps throughout the day. He's 10 weeks now and has been sleeping about 8-10 hours/night for the past week.
I have a 3year old, so a little easier to manage than a 2 year old (bc they usually understand about needing to be patient). I found that if my 3 year old needed something while I am nursing, that if I can't get it, I offer to let him watch a quick show instead and then get him what he needs after nursing. Not necessarily the best solution, but it works for us!