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I am so frusterated with everything going on with my LO. He cries 90% of the time he is awake because he is in pain and frusterated. Because of this he hasnt gotten much tummy time or anything like that. He is 7 weeks and still only sleeps an hour or 2 at a time because of this. He sleeps all day and has hard nights. I end up downstairs with him all friggen night walking and rocking him so my husband can sleep. My LO even cries out in pain and grunts in his sleep. He has gas 24/7. He has explosive, gummy poop and a few times it has been green. He fusses at the breast after about 5 minutes....pulling on and off, grunting and passing gas. He also chokes on his milk and gulps for breath which, he has now started doing when he isnt even eating! He has also started gagging out of nowhere like he needed to vomit for a second but doesnt or can't. I have tried everything. I eliminated dairy for 2 weeks. I block feed. I've pumped let down. I've fed uphill. I've given gas drops and gripe water. I've tried feeding bm from bottles said to reduce colic. Nothing helps. It has NOT gotten better. The lact. consultants and my pedi say turn on the vacume for a few hours or put him on the dryer and he will grow out of it.....and that there are other babies that are worse. And of course, he sleeps soundly thru these appointments. I'm frusterated that my LO is in pain. I'm so overtired. I'm frusterated that, whenever I ask dh on his day off to take LO for an hour or two in the middle of the night, he will but, ends up getting a headache afterwords because he is tired.
I feel like, if breastfeeding is so good and this like... miracle food....then why is this happening? And, am I really doing the right thing? I feel defective.
Sorry if this is all jumbled up. Ive been up all night. I dont know what to do.
First of all, YOU ARE NOT DEFECTIVE! I am so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time right now. It sounds like you have tried a lot and I really don't know what else to say other than you will get through this. Some babies are just colicky and there is really not much you can do. Colic is not caused by breastfeeding because FF babies can have it too. The good news is, most babies outgrow it by 3-4 months so you are almost there. In the beginning, my LO cried most of the time he was awake too but it gradually got better over time. He is still pretty gassy and farts constantly but I think that's normal. Explosive poops are normal for breastfed babies too. The green poop could just be something you ate and I don't think it's anything to worry about if it only happens occasionally. Sorry I dont really have any advice but I know you will get some more replies from other breastfeeding mommies that will probably give you better advice than me.
Thank you itsmenatalie for my beautiful new siggy!
I was going to say reflux as well. Talk to your ped again and get some answers. One of my friends had an issue with their baby being a night baby and sleeping most of the day. That time that he was up at night he would scream. She found that getting him into the same routine at night helped alleviate the sleepless nights and he sleeps now at night but goes to bed at midnight and sleeps till 6 am. Not sure if that helps but it may be something. Hang in there mama you are doing great and your getting over the hump if it is colic. I would definitely see if you ped will check for reflux.
Block feeding sometimes can take a while to take care of an oversupply. I did it for several days and still had an oversupply untils he was about 6 months old, and then the occasional engorgement if her usual schedule was thrown off. She did learn to handle my letdown better by not choking on it and the gas got worse, although the spitting up didn't. I suspect much more than an overactive letdown or oversupply in your case though.
The gagging sounds like it could be reflux, possibly silent reflux. That's something your pediatrician should look into, because it sounds like it's causing him a lot of discomfort.
Usually, problems like this would only be worse if you formula-fed. He could still be sensitive to milk, have you tried cutting out ALL milk sources? It makes for a very strict diet, but it will help you get to the root of his problems. Usually, when we think of eliminating milk, we eliminate milk, yogurt, cheese or other common milk products. A lot of the foods we eat contain milk though, so you really have to read labels. You can also try a strict elimination diet, where you eat the very basics. Meat, rice and veggies, for the most part. If you LO reacts well to this, you can slowly start adding types of foods back into your diet to see if he can tolerate it. I'm not sure if you tried this or have heard of this, but I can get you a link with more specific information if you'd like.
Here's a link on colic in the breastfed baby: http://www.kellymom.com/newman/02colic_in_bf_baby.html
I'm so sorry you are going through this, I really hope you can get to the root of his problems and start enjoying your baby boy more.
Andrea, mom to 3 beautiful girls - Abigail (8) Annabelle (6) and Alexis (3)
Do you eat a lot of garlic or onions?? Onions do it for my baby everytime. Good luck, and ITA, you are NOT defective.
What really helped in gas for my baby was to burp her everytime she let go, sometimes I would have to bounce her a little to get those burps out. I got in the habit of everytime I was holding her to rub her back and constantly pat it. Gripe water before the feeding helped a little, but not much.
You sound just like me when my dd was 7 weeks old. She had the exact same symptoms and was labeled as colicky. I was so tired and frustrated and exhausted that I had to do something so we took her to our ped and he gave us a prescription for reflux. I would definitely mention this to your ped and if you are comfortable trying meds then go for it. For some babies the meds work wonders. In our case it helped a bit, but it was mostly a waiting game until she grew out of her colic (when she was about 4.5 months old).
Hang in there - it is SO hard having a colicky baby, but things WILL get better. Trust me. You are doing a wonderful job mama!!
I'm so sorry! My baby had severe reflux to the point that she had difficulty swallowing and she choked a lot. We had to go to a feeding specialist and had to do tongue exrecises to teach her to suck correctly. She also recommended the soothie pacifier and that helped too
I learned that holding her tummy-down in a football hold(with her tummy against my arm) really helped as well. I would just walk with her like that a lot!
I know it's tough, but it will pass, I promise! For us the first 2 months were the worst. Then for a month, she was much better, except in the evenings. And at 3 months old the major fussiness was gone.
Baby Caleb - born on Sept. 15, 11.31 pm, 8 lb. 15 oz.