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April 1st, 2010, 03:53 PM
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I feel really guilty for looking a little forward to Colin weaning. I love BFing, but I also look forward to having a little more freedom- not being the only one who feeds him-KWIM? I plan my day around his nursing schedule and it will be kind of nice when I don't have to do that anymore.

But, I have guilty feelings that I look forward to more freedom. I can't even understand how some women never try BFing because it is such a huge commitment. My friend stopped BFing because she said she just couldn't sit there while her baby ate and be tied down- really? I would do anything if it was the best for my baby- which is why I plan on letting him self-wean.

Does anyone else look forward to when your baby weans? How do you feel about that?
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April 1st, 2010, 04:47 PM
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I am not looking forward to her weaning, but looking forward to less feedings. She still wakes 2-6 times at night and nurses about once an hour when I am home. I know I have a good amount of milk, because I pump at work and get a good amount! I am going to let her self wean. I am thinking of night weaning her partially when she turns one, and feel super guilty about it, but I am not getting enough sleep and some days can barely function at work
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April 1st, 2010, 05:34 PM
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I am not to that point yet, but I am really hoping he self weans right around one year of age. I am going to stop pumping then, so I would like it if he at least weaned down to only night and early morning feedings because those are my favorites - our snuggle time.
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April 1st, 2010, 05:54 PM
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I've been there....and then I get over it...right now I want Olive to sleep through the night...she's only done that TWICE since she was born! LOL..and she's 18 months....sooooo wish she'd stop nursing several times at night....but at the same time...I'm not all that bothered by it. Some days she'll only nurse three times (in the daylight hours) and others she nurses every couple hours....
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April 2nd, 2010, 05:09 AM
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I've been there....and then I get over it...right now I want Olive to sleep through the night...she's only done that TWICE since she was born! LOL..and she's 18 months....sooooo wish she'd stop nursing several times at night....but at the same time...I'm not all that bothered by it. Some days she'll only nurse three times (in the daylight hours) and others she nurses every couple hours....
overall it does not bother me, i just have days where i cannot function well and cannot nap because i work If it was 2x's a night, i would be ok, it is the 6xs that is a problem. But I am going to wait it out for sure. If we get to a year and she is still nursing 4-6 times a night, I am not sure if I actually could night wean or partially night wean, lol.
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April 2nd, 2010, 10:26 AM
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I have only had my son for two months, so I certainly can't speak for you super moms out there. But as I see it, most women now wait longer to have children. They get very used to a certain degree of autonomy in their lives. When we have an infant, that autonomy goes away almost completely. Now, I know for certain, that there is not a thought of regret for that lost freedom, but its very natural and healthy to miss it. After over a year of building your life around the needs of another human being, longing for a little bit of freedom to do for yourself should not be a cause for guilt. Its a natural human reaction to be somewhat selfish - we couldn't function as self actualized entities if we weren't capable of embracing and loving the self. How would you be able to raise your baby to be a functional healthy adult if you weren't capable of maintaining a healthy balanced sense of you.
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April 2nd, 2010, 10:12 PM
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I don't mind it so much & Ashlynn is 6mo on Sunday. I need to keep track to see how many feedings she has per day but my guess would be 6-8 (a little more if she is having a growth spurt) but she is starting to sleep through the night and doesn't wake up for night feedings once she is down so I think that helps alot. I enjoyed my youth and had plenty of freedom (road trips, concerts, karaoke, travelling etc) plus I married later in life and had Ashlynn when I was 37 so I'm at that point where I'm comfy to just hang out at home and enjoy her first year.

It's probably a good thing I don't work because I've tried every bottle on the market and still no success in getting her to take one. I applaud you working, pumping mommies! That is dedication!!
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April 3rd, 2010, 06:18 PM
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I've felt that way with both of my girls and usually around your little one's age too. Both were still nursing about every 3 hours at that point, which made me feel like I was still tied down. Sometime between 12-15 months is when nursing spaced out though. Anna is down to nursing about 3 times a day and that has happened in just the past 2 months. I can easily leave for 5-6 hours without feeling like I need ot be home (which rarely happens anyway) but I've also planned my first all-day outting next Saturday, and I'm confident that she'll do just fine. This is the age when I've been able to still enjoy breastfeeding but get the freedom that doesn't come with it when they are a baby. You'll be suprised at how much things change in just a few months, hopefully you will get a little more freedom soon!
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April 3rd, 2010, 06:30 PM
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I can totally relate. Our LO's are around the same age, and I'm feeling the same sort of feelings. I love BFing, and I'll be so sad when we're done, but it'll also be really nice when I can be gone for the entire day or have a few drinks. Micah sleeps a 10 hr stretch YAH! Wakes around 5 or 6 to nurse, then sleeps until 7 or 8. It's been a long road, but I feel like I have so much freedom already since he STTN and can go to sleep on his own Other than that, he usually nurses 5-6 times during the day. I'm pretty happy where we are and don't see him weaning any time soon.
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April 4th, 2010, 06:50 PM
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I will not be weaning any time soon. I'm hoping to wean at the one year mark as well. I think I will miss it. The only thing I won't miss is pumping at work. That is getting kind of old...but that is my only con with bf'ing. I don't feel tied down as Caroline will take a bottle of EBM. Usually if I want to go somewhere I have plenty of time to do whatever before I need to nurse/pump. BF'ing has been a great experience and I love the convenience factor...not to mention the health benefits!
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