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September 18th, 2012, 05:30 AM
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Hi Ladies. I don't remember if I've posted here before or not, but if not, my name is Aly and I'm the mom of six beautiful children! 2 girls, 4 boys.

My youngest will be 1 tomorrow. I've EBF until this month. She can and will drink from a bottle and/or sip cup, feeds herself finger foods, and pretty much eats any real foods we'll give her.

She still nurses 2-3 times a day. I've tried to wean her down to just mornings, but she still wants to nurse for her afternoon nap.

We do not use pacifiers. She has a couple, but only used them for about a month around 7 or 8 months of age. Now they are more like toys to her.

She doesn't nurse because she's hungry, I think it's more of a comfort for her now. She is also biting. She bites each and every time she lets go.

So far when she bites, I've firmly told her "No, do not bite" and this always results in her crying. I wait a minute or two, and then attempt to let her nurse again, and if she bites again, I repeat, "No, do not bite". I definitely believe she KNOWS what I am saying no to, because of her reaction. She knows the word "no" because, unfortunately, we say it a lot (or so it seems) "No, don't touch that" "No, you can't have that".

I do not raise my voice, but I am firm.

It just seems like she doesn't WANT to wean. My other babies all weaned around her age, and didn't seem so "attached" to nursing like she is.

Should I just wait her out and let her continue the morning and nap nursings until she decides?
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September 18th, 2012, 09:43 AM
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Most babies naturally wean 18 months- 4+ years of age, so I can see why she does not want to wean, but i can also see why you want to wean. There is no reason to stop at 1, the cows milk is so people do not have to pay big bucks for formula, but if you want her to wean, you are going to have to find other ways for her to find comfort that do not include nursing. It can be a blankey, or lovey, or something, does not have to be a pacifier. I hope you get some others chiming in. I forced my DD to wean at almost 3yo, so i am no help

oh distraction/redirection is good too!
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September 18th, 2012, 12:28 PM
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We've given her milk (mine) in a bottle, and handed her off to dad so he can rock her and let her drink her milk. She doesn't want that. I've thought about trying just cuddling with her when it's nap time??? but if I cuddle with her, she immediately begins trying to pull up my shirt to nurse.

I do enjoy BF'ing her, but I don't enjoy the biting!
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September 18th, 2012, 02:27 PM
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If it is the biting, then I would try to fix that issue, instead of looking at it as the end of nursing. You can unlatch her before she bites (i think you said she does it when she is done) and keep a close eye on her nursing and when she is done eating take her off before she can get to you. If she is actively nursing, she cannot bite. I hope you can find a solution. Also, with the bottle, have you tried a sippy cup for your husband or even one with a straw?
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September 23rd, 2012, 02:02 PM
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I'm currently nursing a 16 month old and a 4 year old and neither of them would have been ready to wean at around 1 years old. The older actually increased her nursing to 50 times in a day (a lot of the time just to latch, think it was a security thing) shortly after her first birthday.

Anyway I think the length of nursing should only be decided by the mom and the child. If you feel comfortable nursing her past 1 there is no reason for you to wean her. She's still getting loads of benefits from the milk as are you from breastfeeding.
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