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I am pregnant with my first baby (a little girl) and I'm not sure what I want to do as far as feeding. I know that breastfeeding is healthier for the baby and is a bonding experience, but honestly, it seems kind of creepy and frightening to me. I want to try and may start off by doing half breastfeeding half formula feeding, but I just don't know.
Has anybody else had similar doubts? Any insight as to the benefits and downsides of each?
I was really freaked out by the thought. After I had my daughter I tried, it hurt, then I had people at the hospital looking at my boobs it was such an awkward experience. So we started giving her formula, it was easier in the hospital, then my boobs weren't always out. Then after a few days she would cry, had belly issues, ect so I decided to get rid of formula. Her belly issues went away she was having regular bowel movements(and they didn't smell as bad). Now we are almost at 15 months of breastfeeding and any weirdness I had is gone. I'm glad I made the decision to get rid of formula.
It can seem weird at first but it becomes a wonderful experience almost immediately. I wouldn't advise trying to breastfeed and formula feed from the start. Any formula in the beginning can delay your milk coming in and cause supply issues from the start which can hinder your breast feeding relationship. I'd encourage you to choose one way or the other, and if you choose to breast feed, stay as far from formula in the beginning as you can.
I didn't breastfeed with my first 2 because I thought it was strange and wasn't too comfortable with it. It wasn't as "main stream" back then and now things are different. Anyways, I decided to give it a go with my 3rd baby despite my fears and confusion about it. It worked for us and I really enjoyed my breastfeeding experience with him, and am now breastfeeding baby #4 and I find it odd that I didn't do it with my first 2.
You can always try it and if you don't like it, you can switch. I wouldn't recommend both breastfeeding and bottle feeding at the same time because in the beginning, nipple confusion and preference starts in.
Thanks ladies, that's all really helpful. That's a good point about forming a preference for one or the other. I think I should start out breastfeeding, and I can always switch to formula later on if I really don't like it. I just want to do what's best for her so I think that's the way to go.
Yes, I would start out with breastfeeding only, because if you start doing half and half your milk supply will suffer, it is supply and demand. I would suggest getting to some breastfeeding or La Leche meetings prior to your baby's arrival to see that breastfeeding is normal and natural and not a big deal. You should check out the "Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" as well as other books. Do you know anyone who breastfed? when DD was born, only my one friend was someone I knew who nursed, but as time went on i made a lot of friends and all nursed their babies.
You've gotten some really great advice already! Just wanted to say good luck to you, whatever you decide. There are lots of great resources out there (including the ladies here at JM)...La Leche League's website (LLLI.org) and KellyMom.com are two of my favorite.
Breastfeeding is sort of a conundrum in that, yes, it's a very natural thing to do, but it does NOT come naturally to everyone, especially right away. It can be awkward, painful, frustrating, etc., but usually it is the first several weeks that are the hardest, and if you can make it through that, it gets much easier.
Hospitals sometimes offer breastfeeding classes....my OB strongly recommended I go to one (I'm already planning to breastfeed), so there must be something useful there. Look into it Everything about having a baby is going to be weird (pooping while giving birth? tons of people all up in your business? The fact that there is a human being growing inside you?), so don't let that deter you There should also be lactation consultants at your hospital to help you out in the beginning.
I know this is kind of dated, but just wanted to add some thoughts.
I BF my first, and hated it. I kept going when I should have weaned because it was just too taxing on my well being. Part of being a good mom to me is being 100% both physically and emotionally.
With #2, I wasn't even going to try. I was determined not to BF her. I even had the bottles and formula packed in my bag because I knew I was not going to have any at the birth center where I was having her. I tried and I didn't have that sense of panic I felt with #1, so I kept trying. I just took it one feeding at a time. Around 6 weeks old, I felt like I just couldn't do it anymore. Tried to wean her and it just broke my heart seeing her do what her sister did. I decided I'd mix pumping (which oddly isn't as stress inducing for me) and nursing from tap. It is a happy middle. She gets 1-2 bottles a day, I pump after or before 1 or 2 feedings. I just take it each day, each feeding at a time. I probably wont make it past a year, but that's ok. I told DH that at 9 months I'm going to probably stop pumping and like my supply do what it does. I have a few weeks worth of pumped milk on hand and then she can switch to cows milk or formula depending on how long the pumped milk lasts.
Bf-ing with #2 has been a very different experience. While I still don't enjoy it, it isn't nearly has difficult or taxing emotionally. I feel more in control, which helps me to still give her breastmilk.
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