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I am so close to giving up on breastfeeding so i need motivation and advice PLEASE!
I know my milk supply is good but oh my gosh my three week old wants to be on me 24/7. If i put him down I have to let him cry for at least 5 minutes to keep him from just wanting to suckle me all day long.
Nights are the worst. Last night at like 9PM he spent over an hour on me and I know at this point it is not b/c he is hungry.
How do you keep them from using you as a pacifier? How do you ever feel confident that they are doing that and not just starving? I get so confused and from looking online I see alot of people go through similar issues.
I have to sleep with him on my chest at this point b/c it is the only way he will sleep. If i lay him iin his bassinet he wakes right up. My back hurts b/c we are sleeping on the couch and I don't mean to complain but I am just not really into straight co sleeping. I want him in the bassinet next to the bed. I just don't know what to do.
Sorry I know this is like a million questions all at once LOL. Hopefully any of it makes sense. Basically I am trying to figure out ways to get him to stop co sleeping and how to know when to actually feed him. I went by on demand he would never be off of me.
I would try to nurse in a baby carrier/sling/wrap, so you are not feeling so tied down to nursing. Also, remember that babies have a "fourth trimester" in those early months. If you can get some help around the house, even hire a young teen to help, it will help you get past this rough part. Also, try to go to some breastfeeding groups, it is always nice to be around other nursing moms, as well as getting that support of others near you. Hang in there! it will get easier.
It sort of sounds like cluster feeding, maybe. It can be exhausting, for sure, but it's normal at that age, developmentally. I think the carrier suggestion is a good one. I hope you can find a way to get some rest!
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Hang in there, it will get better! I remember at month 1-2 thinking there is no way I'm going to make it. He was a non-stop nurser for the first several months. I also had some people around me who where not supportive at all (in-laws). My FIL once told me if front of a room full of people while I was nursing "you are doing something wrong, you need to talk to someone, he shouldn't cry or nurse that much." I'm proud to say my little one just turned 1 on Friday and we are still going strong. One of the best things I did was go to a Le Leche meeting to be around other sucessful nursing mothers. It gave me back some confidence and let me ask questions of mothers who had btdt. My one year old still has not had a cold or even a runny nose which I credit greatly to b/f. It is so worth it! Hang it there and have confidence it WILL get easier.
My son is also like that the first few months and to make things worst for me I had a c-section so carrying him was not an option. What helped me most was the encouragement of my mom and my friends and co working moms who are also breast feeding.
My husband also helped out in carrying my son and changing his diapers at night. Had no choice but to co sleep with him because of I can't carry him.
I agree, a good support group with other nursing moms is very important to encourage each other.
The growth spurts are the worst! And it seems like they come back to back for the first few months. I almost gave up a million times and would stay up just crying about wanting to quit. I'm SO glad I didn't though, after those first few months it gets incredibly easy and I'm so glad I didn't have to deal with formula/bottles. I know you can do it!
Sounds like my first was for the first month or so of her life. Can you hear him swallow when he nurses? The rhythm changes a bit when they comfort nurse although what I remember from my girl was that it seemed to be semi constant weak suckling. Comfort nursing and pacifying on you is not a bad thing as long as it doesnt wear you out too much.
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