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My daughter was born on the 22nd of this month, so she's now 1week and 1 day. Since the first day I tried to nurse her, she would scream (not just fuss or cry, but scream like someone was hurting her) at the breast, would latch on for a second, suck, and pull away. I pumped milk for her, and she will take it out of the bottle fine and dandy, so I know it's not a food allergy.
I have a past history of severe depression (no major occurances within the past 3 years however) so I know I'm at an increased risk for post partum depression. When she would scream like that, it absolutely killed me inside, made me feel like I was hurting her somehow, which made me feel guilty, and feeling guilty about trying to do something good for her made me angry (at myself). I don't want to direct that anger towards her, so I started giving her what milk I could pump, which wasn't much at all, and certainly not enough to keep her satiated (less than an ounce typically, even though I pump every 2 hours) and supplementing with formula.
I really want her to be breastfed but now that I've given her bottles and formula, I feel like I've ruined my chances. I cry over it at least once a day, because I feel like I've failed, and that if I was a better mother, I would try harder to get her to nurse. I don't know what to do. I don't have the benefit of a public/hospital LC, and as I was the primary source of income before the baby, we're tight on cash until I start working again, so a private LC is out too. I've tried everything I can think of, my midwife says my holds are fine, when she does latch, she latches fine...I'm at a loss.
Sorry this was so long but I'm desperate :/
Edit: I forgot to mention one thing, I've never experienced a let down reflex since my milk came in - I talked with my mother and she said she had the same issue when she tried to breastfeed me. She eventually gave up because of it, and I was formula fed. Is it possible that these types of issues can be hereditary?
dont know if this will help but you may want to talk to your midwife/dr about the let down reflex...some women never feel it...but when my aunt was nursing my cousin she had trouble letting down and they gave her a nose spray that helped her....this was 20 years ago and i dont know if they still do it...but it may help...
i wouldn't give up yet...do you have a La leche league near you?
So sorry to hear you've been having difficulties bfing . I also experienced my supply dropping after having to switch to formula due to some medical issues. It was actually down to about a half ounce an hour that I'd make, though he was eating doucle that!!! I was solely pumping and feeding him formula(got a backup supply that way, though lol). As soon as I was given the ok to bf, my supply went back up within 2 weeks with the help of fenugreek and blessed thistle. I think some women just don't do well with a pump. I know for me it's MUCH MUCH harder to get a let down with a pump than with my ds.
My best advice, instead of pumping try the breast first. After you've tried the breast, if the baby's still not satisfied, the give a bottle. After the feeding try to pump. the baby may give you a let doen that you can use to get some milk out with the pump. And like I said the herbs did WONDERS for me, ask your lactation specialist about the doses. I used fenugreek 3 caps 3 times a day (500 mg tabs) and blessed thisle 3 caps 3 times a day. Most women see an increase within a week or 2 and then most can discontinue use and still maintain supply. Best wishes!
Sounds like a classic case of nipple confusion to me, nursing-pulling away-crying. With alot of hard work Im sure you could get your supply up and repair the nipple confusion by not bottle feeding.
Just nurse nurse nurse and supply will increase. There are many supplements you can take but the truth is what will help is nursing not pumping and bottle feeding. You just have to be ready for alot of hard work for a while.